Damaged goods ????

[legend760]

following on from shadowmans post on single bmothers.
as a guy , or a woman .
do you see single mums as damaged goods?
or single fathers as damaged goods?
or are you rare amongst people and judge on meeting folk rather than prejudging and then sticking to your preconceived ideas no matter what ?

or are you neither of these?

[Champagne]

I'm quite torn on my view of this one.

I would probably get into a relationship with a guy who had kids from a previous relationship/marriage, but I would have a problem committing. It also depends on the age of the kid(s) too. Teenagers would be a no-go for me. I couldn't be the 'other woman' who stole away their Dad.

The lack of commitment would be based on the fact that I couldn't really see myself having kids with a guy who's been there and done that. I want someone who's going through the experience first hand with me.

But then i'll say all this and then tomorrow i'll go out and meet a twice divorced man with 4 teenage kids from 2 different women!!! C'est la vie.

[Skreecheeboy]

Legend auld boy, how's things?

I think it depends on the lady or man in question, how much support they get from the absent parent and from friends and family in the babysitting stakes etc. Doesn't necessarily mean goods would be damaged to me, unless the afterbirth and stuff is still hingin oot!

I would have to think a bit longer about it before getting involved in anything longerterm to make sure that we were going to be stable as the kids would be upset too if you break up.

[andy-hughes]

I didn't see my wife as 'damaged' in any way when we met - she had two daughters from her first marriage.

It's our twenty-first wedding aniversary today - after six years of 'going out' - still looking pretty damned 'undamaged' from where I'm standing!

[legend760]

andy from reading all the posts it looks like opinion is split.
and i think thats probably an honest reflection.
some guys wouldnt go near a woman with kids .
and the same for some women with guys who have children.

this wasnt a judgement thing just a post to see how opinion split .

[andy-hughes]

That's fair coment legend.

I was one who always said I'd never have kids, didn't get on with them, didn't think them, they didn't like me ... just shows how wrong you can be!