Do I Message Him Or Let Him Message Me?

[abbeylee90]

I'm meant to be going with guy I went on a date with on Saturday tonight do I message him if I don't hear from him or let him message me?

[scorpiojo]

Obsessed? 🙄

[scorpiojo]

You were given advice on here when you asked how you should tell him you're not interested. Did you read it?

[Auntypoll]

Abbey l am not surprised you are 33 and still single. Think for a minute....would you like to be treated like you are treating this guy? One one hand you've got a guy who really cares about you, goes on holiday and still messages you despite you ignoring him, and on the other a guy who after two dates expects you to have sex with him. Why not give the first guy a chance? I know so manny people in long term relationships that teallyndid not like their partners on the first date, give this guy a chance and go on another date with him.

[abbeylee90]

The other guy still talking to and hopefully I gave him a hint that it to soon to stay at his.

[abbeylee90]

He said this Well I'm attracted to you sexually . It's important in any potential relationship but if you don't feel attracted to me in that way also as a person it be difficult you agree.

[newmodarmy]

Could that mean "I want to have sex with you but if you don't feel attracted to me in the same way then there's no future so let's call things off"

[abbeylee90]

Well no because he spoke to me today and I said after that comment what the point in dating if not attracted to each other.

[scorpiojo]

Dropping hints and/or ignoring people is not the best way, Abbey. Just be honest with both of them.

[Clementino]

Please give "Beardy" another date. As I suggested posts ago, something like a golf place which may bring out his personality more as you both would be more casual, interacting and having fun.....I hope.

[newmodarmy]

abbey, you said "I said after that comment what the point in dating if not attracted to each other.". Well maybe that's why you've not had a date since he asked about you sleeping over

[abbeylee90]

This was said yesterday.

[Rosetta]

Sounds like he is pressuring you to have sex, personally I would tell him where to go

[Karamia]

You said new guy was going to be working over next few days/weeks but I think it's odd that he is not discussing when and where your next meet up for date might be and just checking what nights you free. 

Is there no talk of any more dates? Or exciting things to do together? If he only wants you to spend night at his I'm not sure this guy intends having a relationship. More like a one night stand. Just be careful please and don't agree to anything you may regret if he then totally ignored you afterwards.

[abbeylee90]

I'm not going to sleep round his yet and let him message me when he wants to meet up.

[abbeylee90]

I feel like I'm back at square one now

[Karamia]

I would go back on pof and have more dates with other guys. Don't wait around for this one. No harm in speaking to a few other guys.

[abbeylee90]

I'm having a browse around on pof. He hasn't been on since Monday.

[Karamia]

Yes but then he was out with mates Tuesday night. He could have been on another date Wednesday- you don't know. 

Instead of feeling back to square one congratulate yourself on getting to know people properly so you don't get hurt.

[RandyMarsh]

someone catch me up on the first 170 posts pls

[anneasquith]

We had NO rain today .