Do I Message Him Or Let Him Message Me?

[abbeylee90]

I'm meant to be going with guy I went on a date with on Saturday tonight do I message him if I don't hear from him or let him message me?

[Dizmo]

Abbey, I'd only stop talking to him if that's actually what you want to do. Just be careful about what his intentions are.

I met my current partner twice before moving in with her. The first time I met her I ended up staying at her house over night. I only went back home because of a medical emergency, otherwise I may have never left. We had been talking to each other for several months prior to meeting and we were DJ's for the same radio station, so it's a little different.

You can still message him and get to know him. I'd be very careful if he continues to try and get you to stay at his house. That's a red flag to me.

[Dizmo]

* online DJ's, we never met before I stayed at her house. I wasn't a complete stranger and we shared online friends too.

[Auntypoll]

Abbey you need to talk to him. Be adult and ask him does he want to date or is he just after sex. It's what adults do,it's really not going to get you anywhere if when you don't know answers you just ghost them. What about that other guy with the Tatooes? 

[abbeylee90]

He said he sexually attracted to me and its important  in any potential relationship.

[abbeylee90]

What guy with tattoos?

[newmodarmy]

Beard and piercings guy I think Aunty Poll means.

[abbeylee90]

I don't like him as much as he likes me

[abbeylee90]

He messaged again after not replying last week

[Moorea7]

So what's he saying now, Abbey?

[abbeylee90]

Says alright Abbey hope you been?

[Moorea7]

A man of few words then?

[abbeylee90]

Yes

[abbeylee90]

So now it's like he obsessed with me

[Moorea7]

What makes you think that, Abbey?  I've lost track a bit - when are you seeing him again?

[newmodarmy]

"alright Abbey hope you been?" doesn't make sense to me but if that's the only message in a while it certainly doesn't sound to me like he's obsessed with you

[pastafreak]

In what way is he obsessed with you?  Hasn't he been in touch just a few times? Or have I lost tract?

[Captain2]

14.38 A man of few words then?

14.48 Yes

Oh, the irony. 😂

[abbeylee90]

Didn't reply last time so thought he might get the message

[Captain2]

^^^ Then this time TELL him 'Thanks, but no thanks' - then the guy knows where he is.