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boona | 15:05 Mon 17th Dec 2018 | Family & Relationships
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Do you treat your Grandchildren equal? The children in question are 9yrs and 12yrs, would you spend more on one child than the other because they are "a little bit older" ? (Both sets of parents earn the same amount)

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They should all be treated equally. Favoritism causes trouble.
08:10 Tue 18th Dec 2018
pasta.

"I can still remember the pain lil pasta felt on a few ocassions"

Well "LIL PASTA seems to have done well in life.
^ tell her not to be fusilli
I have eight grandchildren and six great grandchildren who , as far as possible have always got presents that they wanted even if the cost varied.
Rockrose, so how would little ones know the cost? If they like their gift, that's all that matters. And older ones should appreciate and understand that the value shouldn't matter. As someone else said, it's more about what their parents might think. My son's favourite present one year was a 99 p. padlock from Woollies!
Sensible Danny.
Yes...she has sqad. Good parenting I guess...;)

And spath...she was never taught to judge by monetary value.
We have always made a point of treating our two the same, always have and always will.
When my grandchildren were younger, we bought presents and tried to spend about the same but if one cost more than the other it wasn't a problem as they wouldn't have realised. Now they are older, they prefer money so they can buy what they want so they get the same amount.
I've never over analysed it really, when they were babes/toddlers they got a nice gift and some money in the bank, when older it was something they'd expressed an interest in, or was on their wish list.

Now it's a few stocking fillers and they all get money in their bank,this year it will be the same amount for all.
I have 8 grand-children, from 6yo to 17yo and they will all be getting presents or money to the value of a tenner. I have always spent the exact same amount on them, as i have my 4 children.
We always gave our children equal amounts in monetary terms nd are doing the same with the grandchildren - their age is not a factor,
I try to ensure that what I give my two 'grandchildren' (there's no biological link - long story!) appears roughly equal. e.g. this year they'll each get one 'main' present and three 'extra' ones. However I don't balance the actual amounts I spend.

This year it works out that I've probably spent about £50 on the 8-year-old and about £60 on his 13-year-old brother but that's only because what I wanted to buy for the older boy's main present happened to cost about a tenner more than what I thought the younger one would really like. In another year it could work out the other way round in monetary value - but with both boys still appearing to get roughly the same anyway.
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