bitch of a neigbour

[jay90]

i really don't what to do! we live in a housing co-operative flat . i have lived here for 13 years . a new family moved in about a year ago . the mother of the family seemed really nice at first if not a bit over the top with her niceness .. inviting me to baby groups with her . telling me personal stuff etc. since then we had a few problems with our cat being let into the comunal hall way at night and ******* the other neighbours off . . this was happening due to her husband smoking in the door to the garden.and letting him late a night when we were in bed and didn,t know. we left a note up saying could people if the cat is late on by giving us a text or missed call. this never happend . after the cat being in the hall every morning we left a polite note addressed to the whole house asking if any one had any ideas to solve this problem.she took this very personally and wrote a very nasty note back. since then she found any excuse to complain and leave note after note up about the smallest of things .my 13 year old son was locked out in the rain tonight and there was no body else in so rang her bell she told him never to ring her bell again .

[jay90]

sorry just going on ..

[Jugglering]

Jay... some of your Question doesn't read too well... I can't work out why the cat is getting the blame for the husband smoking and the neighbour complaining about the son in the rain. Was the cat trapped in the hallway ? If so, I can totally understand everyone's anguish (esp the poor cat) .... Also, why is the husband smoking in the door (what does that mean ?) and letting lates get him (what on earth is a late ?)

[PatriciaH]

i think the neighbour goes outside for a smoke when jay 90 has already gone to bed and the neighbour keeps the door open whilst smoking so the cat creeps in and piddles much to the annoyance of all the other the neighbours in the flats , if i was you jay id keep the cat in when you go to bed , even if you have to get a cat litter tray , the wife of the smoker is acting chilish ignoring your son and leaving him outside in the rain ( silly 3ow) and the smoking neighbour shouldnt be wedging / holding the door open whilst having a smoke and smelling the flats out with his ciggarettes !

[Panic Button]

I would set my alarm clock to get me up during the early hours, to let the cat in.

I would simply have nothing whatever to do with her or her family. Ignore her notes.

Give your son a key to let himself in, and reassure him it was nothing he did to caue the upset.

[jen78]

So is the cat out at night.

Neighbour's hubby goes out to smoke so get gets into communal hall.

Cat then shut in hall at night causing nuisance to neighbours

You left note to ask for neighbours' suggestions on solving problem.

Neighbour took it personally and is not being a bitch.

Is that right?

[jen78]

sorry...should have read now being a bitch

[jay90]

pat h has go it!

[Jugglering]

Nah.... sounds like neighbour (or RR) is the one who needs putting down ..... poor little cat...

[dot.hawkes]

What has really upset you is that she seems to have turned on you because you maybe have upset her, you are not used to someone being so friendly after 13 years in the place and she perhaps feels you are being stuck up, it seems like everyone has got things mixed up, you all need to clear the air

[Jugglering]

That good advice, Dot.... but I still feel a bit sorry for the poor cat who gets trapped in the middle of the whole situation....

[jay90]

everyone has always been friendly .i meant she was a bit over the top when i first met her. . i not stick up at all lol ( sorry about my spelling english was not my first language )

[Panic Button]

It might not be the smoking husband who lets the cat in. It might slip in when someone else opens the door.

Could you get a cat flap in your front door?

[Jugglering]

Jay... don't worry about english not being your first language... everyone here (well, nearly everyone lol) has been trying to help you ! As Dot says, maybe you need to get back in touch with your neighbour and try to sort out this problem for good - it's no fun for the cat, for your son, for anyone having to use the hall etc etc. Maybe it would be better if the cat had her litter tray and was not able to escape into the communal hall for the time being.

[PatriciaH]

Do the housing allow youto keep pets? as panic button suggested could you get a cat flap fitted to the communal door and your door as well?

[Kidd72]

Would it not be possible to have a cat flap fitted to your internal door, then if your cat is trapped in or let in through the communal door they he/she could go into your home.

At thirteen I think a key should be OK for your lad also does he not have no mates around where you are?

Leaving notes is petty, however don't you think they might find it impolite to wake you up with a text if you'd already gone to bed?