Open Minded

[whiskeryron]

I know I am sticking my neck out here but I genuinely would like to ask the question.
I have always valued the sanctity of marriage & indeed as some of you know I was happily married for 58 years,I have a lovely daughter & 2 wonderful grandsons. Now had I have been born gay I would never have had this smashing family,so please explain to me the benefits of being gay ( being of the impression that all animal life produces male & female for the process of keeping the life form going). I am honestly not knocking at anyone but genuinely seek enlightenment.Please take this in the spirit it is meant.Ron.

[NazNomad]

Marriage aside, I guess it's simply that you can't help who you fall in love with, benefits or not.

[craft1948]

I don't think it's a matter of weighing up the pro's and con's...........if you're gay you're gay.

[andy-hughes]

I don't think you can list 'benefits' in terms of sexuality - every aspect of the human condition contains good and bad things about it.

You have enjoyed married life, and children, but as a gay man, what you have never had you would not miss.

Instead you would have enjoyed an independent lifestyle with seriously large amounts of disposable income to enjoy it with.

No dependents can be a blessing as well - simply leave everything to partner, or charity of choice.

As a married man with children and grandchildren, I am blessed, but plenty are not, and everyone makes the best with the hand that life deals them.

i think comparisons in this area are largely fruitless - we enjoy what we have, and accept that we are very lucky - and i am sure the majority of gay people think exactly the same way.

[Davethedog]

Being Gay is a life choice, its not like a man/woman weighs up the options chooses one. Its the way you are.

If you just look at just a heterosexual life style certain things turn some people on that are an anathema to other hetrosexuals.

Its the way you are. To me ( a hetrosexual) Boy George summed up the gay way of thinking when he said " I'm very uncomfortable with the idea of vaginas. They bother me in the way that spiders bother some people" It wasn't a choice its what he is.

I agree that not having children would deny people an experience, many gays are now having surrogate children so they may experince the joys of a family.

[Davethedog]

Being Gay is NOT a life choice,

[looby1914]

Personally it's something within you and you certainly cannot change how you feel.

I have been with my partner nearly 6 months now.. I had not been in a relationship with another female before but always been attraceted to them. But now I certainly wouldn't go back to males. In my opinion my mrs just gets "me".. she is more intune to who i am.. if i am not well.. what I want.. how i feel etc etc
Just because we are in the a same sex relationship doesn't mean we can't have what you have had with having a different sex partner.
I have a son to which my partner loves and adores him as if he was hers.. There is a fantastic loving bond... Future we have talked about getting married ((civil partnership)) but not for awhile. But just because we are "gay" does not mean we can have the same as everybody else. Obviously some things have to be done differently but we can still have our family life. I love the family I have now... myself.. mrs and my son.. wouldn't change it for the world. Certainly am the happiest I have ever been,

[NazNomad]

Being gay, you're unlikely to end up with an unwated brat that will spoil your life for the next 18+ years.

Being gay, you're less likely to have to appear on Jezza Kyle after being knocked up by half the community.

[Count-A-Strong]

I hope you feel 'enlightened' ron.

[whiskeryron]

Thanks for all your answers,I do feel a little more enlightened now,more so to looby whose explanation is really great. I think I am now in a more knowledgeable position.Ron.

[starone]

Ron, I was married to the same man for 63 years so I know what you mean. I also have a son and a daughter and three grandsons. I was extremely lucky in my marriage and although there were hard times as well as good on the whole the good outweighed the bad. However, I can also accept that there are other relationships, not the same kind as mine where there is great contentment.

[gingejbee]

Ron, if only some others (docspock etc.) would read this thread and go off feeling half as enlightened as yourself - snowball in Hell, anybody?

[piggynose]

dont they say dont knock it until you´ve tried it!!

[Sqad]

gingjbee

<<<<Ron, if only some others (docspock etc.) would read this thread and go off feeling half as enlightened as yourself - snowball in Hell, anybody?<<<

Male homo sexuals "fall in love"...........and have loving relationships
Female homosexuals "fall in love"........and have loving relationships.
Hetero sexuals "fall in love".............and have loving relationships.

Male and female reproductive organs are different, so what is the biological advantage to the human race?......there isn´t.
If the majority were homosexuals from the beginning of life around 20 million years ago, the human race would be extinct.
Homosexuality is man made and Doc et al accept this....then where does your "enlightenment" come in ?

[piggynose]

maybe ignorance is bliss

[gingejbee]

I was using "enlightened" to mean "freed from prejudice" - and some people never will be, of course.

[Sqad]

gingijbee.....I knew that but prejudice is based on opinion rather than fact and you will agree that people are entitled to their opinion.

[gingejbee]

Yes, just a shame it's so prejudiced (are we going round in circles?).