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My son is 18years old, he has recently (within the last month) started a relationship with a 27 yr old with 4 kids... that doesnt bother me to a certain extent as I know I can't do anything about it anyway due to him being an "adult". So I have supported him in his decision... However, over the past few weeks her friend, who is a 32yr old male, not interested in said woman whom my son is with but he does have a problem with their relationship, have not a clue as to why..
Anyway, I digress, my son was walking to the bus stop this morning to get to college where this man is waiting for him and promptly punches my son in the face,twice.
Obviously I am now concerned for my son and I really do want him to think twice about this relationship... I know I can't make him stop seeing her but what can I do other than ship him off to another Country?
Anyway, I digress, my son was walking to the bus stop this morning to get to college where this man is waiting for him and promptly punches my son in the face,twice.
Obviously I am now concerned for my son and I really do want him to think twice about this relationship... I know I can't make him stop seeing her but what can I do other than ship him off to another Country?
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I don't think there is much you can do Kat. Unfortunately once your son is old enough to chose his own path he also has to be old enough to deal with the ups and down of that path.
Continue to support him as you are doing and be there whenever either of them need you. The 32 yr old idiot is could have turned up in his life whoever he chose to date, he'll go away as soon as he came and they'll be the stronger for it I'm sure.
Continue to support him as you are doing and be there whenever either of them need you. The 32 yr old idiot is could have turned up in his life whoever he chose to date, he'll go away as soon as he came and they'll be the stronger for it I'm sure.
We have contacted the police and they came this morning to take the statement.
So now I have myself and my partner, my son, his girlfriend and her 4 kids in my house as she is worried that this guy will start on her now too...eek!
To be honest I have had enough and just want to scream... in the last few months, my partner of 6 yrs has had an 10 month affair, I have found a breast lump (thankfully only a cyst), my other 19 yr old son has now found a lump and now my youngest has been punched and is in a relationship with a woman 9 yrs older than him with 4 kids!
What else can be thrown at me?
So now I have myself and my partner, my son, his girlfriend and her 4 kids in my house as she is worried that this guy will start on her now too...eek!
To be honest I have had enough and just want to scream... in the last few months, my partner of 6 yrs has had an 10 month affair, I have found a breast lump (thankfully only a cyst), my other 19 yr old son has now found a lump and now my youngest has been punched and is in a relationship with a woman 9 yrs older than him with 4 kids!
What else can be thrown at me?
No, she's not but I was concerned that my boy wouldnt leave her house without her and, to get him away from the psycho guy, I bought them all back here. Her kids are bloody terrors too! The 6yr old went into a hissy fit at dinner time and refused to eat it, kicking the chair, radiator etc... I thin my level of patience with little ones has disappeared since having my lot hehe.
And we wonder why this questioner has problems with her employers not allowing her 18year old son to live with her on school premises?
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The thing is people's personal relationships can be difficult, and your son is sticking by his partner when a psycho shows up, so good on him. She'll quite likely be family if he's serious about her, which he seems to be, so I think you'd better change tack and decide to like her come what may, and accept that occasionally these things happen and everyone is doing everything they can to sort the situation out, there's really nothing more you can do.
Sorry, but can't agree with noxxy.
Whilst I sort of agree she has to accept his relationship (until, it goes pear shaped like Carrust says anyway) Kat doesn't have to accept this woman living in her house rent free and with a gaggle of kids to boot.
Personally, as i've said, i'd set a time frame for when this woman has to sort her life out and leave, if your son goes with her, fair enough, but do not let yourself become a doormat kat just to keep the peace with your son.
Whilst I sort of agree she has to accept his relationship (until, it goes pear shaped like Carrust says anyway) Kat doesn't have to accept this woman living in her house rent free and with a gaggle of kids to boot.
Personally, as i've said, i'd set a time frame for when this woman has to sort her life out and leave, if your son goes with her, fair enough, but do not let yourself become a doormat kat just to keep the peace with your son.
I tend to agree Boo, I think when she leaves here if she does go back to her house I know/hope my son wont go with her as he knows he will be in for more physical harm.
I have told her that she needs to make a decision and act upon it tomorrow whilst i am out at work, I just hope she takes heed as my partner isnt so nice about telling people... I try to go down the gentle route wheras he would tell her outright that she needs to get herself together...
I have told her that she needs to make a decision and act upon it tomorrow whilst i am out at work, I just hope she takes heed as my partner isnt so nice about telling people... I try to go down the gentle route wheras he would tell her outright that she needs to get herself together...