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My gf and I are thinking about moving in together, so ive been half living at hers and half at mine for the last month or so. Monday night we both went out separately with our own friends and planned to meet up at her home later. Basically I got very dunk with my mates and when I got home i thought (in my very drunken state) that it might be fun to wind her up and make her jealous by telling a few porkies about the night and me and women etc. Obviously when I woke in the morning I deigned everything, got my friends to back me up by letting her know how much I love her, bought her flowers to say sorry etc etc etc. and she said it was fine, said she understood and no harm done and that we were ok.
However last night we went to the pub and an argument started up about the whole thing and she basically said she didn't believe me about Monday night, she was now sure that something did happen with me and other women and she didn't trust me anymore. She then goes off to the loo, and she was in there a long time. As it is a pub we both know well, I asked the barmaid to go into the loo to see if she was ok and not crying or anything. The barmaid said she was fine, and that she was just on the phone. When she came out all seemed to be ok and we got ready to leave 5-10mins later.
All of a sudden from behind a big guy grabs my arm, shoves me out the door and says them my gf is so upset, doesn't want to see me anymore and to leave her alone. My gf at this point is running to the house, and by the time I get this guy off me, she had my brief case with wallet, phone, laptop etc. at the front door. The guy basically shoves it my hand says the rest of my clothes and stuff etc will be sent on and that I'm not to return back there at all or get in contact with her (obviously I realise she was on the phone to him whilst in the loo). and that if i didnt go he would call the police.
However last night we went to the pub and an argument started up about the whole thing and she basically said she didn't believe me about Monday night, she was now sure that something did happen with me and other women and she didn't trust me anymore. She then goes off to the loo, and she was in there a long time. As it is a pub we both know well, I asked the barmaid to go into the loo to see if she was ok and not crying or anything. The barmaid said she was fine, and that she was just on the phone. When she came out all seemed to be ok and we got ready to leave 5-10mins later.
All of a sudden from behind a big guy grabs my arm, shoves me out the door and says them my gf is so upset, doesn't want to see me anymore and to leave her alone. My gf at this point is running to the house, and by the time I get this guy off me, she had my brief case with wallet, phone, laptop etc. at the front door. The guy basically shoves it my hand says the rest of my clothes and stuff etc will be sent on and that I'm not to return back there at all or get in contact with her (obviously I realise she was on the phone to him whilst in the loo). and that if i didnt go he would call the police.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.So I went to a friends, stayed at his the night and am now in work today.
I have sent her 3-4 texts already asking why, what and how can we resolve things etc because we do both love each other so much. And as yet no replies (although I know she�s getting them as I�ve had the delivery reports).
What should I do?
She has so much of my stuff there?
All I want is her back, and for us to talk?
I think she is sereose in it all and that she does want it over as I don�t think she would go to these lengths if not.
What should I do? Should I keep trying to get in touch or just leave her to calm down for the day and try again tomorrow and all weekend?
id also just like add that in no way was i violent to either her or him and never would be. also he is a total stranger to me.
I have sent her 3-4 texts already asking why, what and how can we resolve things etc because we do both love each other so much. And as yet no replies (although I know she�s getting them as I�ve had the delivery reports).
What should I do?
She has so much of my stuff there?
All I want is her back, and for us to talk?
I think she is sereose in it all and that she does want it over as I don�t think she would go to these lengths if not.
What should I do? Should I keep trying to get in touch or just leave her to calm down for the day and try again tomorrow and all weekend?
id also just like add that in no way was i violent to either her or him and never would be. also he is a total stranger to me.
you didnt mention how long you have been seeing her? first opinion, if its a fairly new relationship, it sounds like she might have been hurt before by someone cheating on her and what you've 'apparently done' in her mind is unforgivable.i cant see anyone going to those lengths just to have an excuse to finish it, and it sounded as if you were getting serious.but this has obviously been festering away and shes been nursing her wrath for 24 hours.id leave her for a few days and let her cool off, i think when she does you should confess how daft you were trying to make her jealous.she might not beleive anyone would do something as pathetic(but most of us have done the same sort of thing)just shows how it can backfire!if she doesnt give in within a week, id guess you'd be better off without her.