Opinion Please Again

[Connemmara]

Left wedding card (through the door - no answer to my wrapping) with money of course in it for my friend's son and future daughter in law. Now my friend is very sick fighting cancer so I am leaving this one alone.

She rings me last Night and thanks me for the present - I coudn't believe it - what was wrong with the son

He was there all right. Do no young ones say thanks for anything anymore. I am disgusted but I would never hurt her!!!!

[black_cat51]

it seems very odd to me. But i was brought up that you couldn't play with your toys till you'd written the thankyou note. From a purely selfish POV i thank people on behalf of my 18 month old, because. let's be honest, people are more likley to buy h=for her again next birthday if she's thanked them this time!

[pixie373]

They certainly do say thank you. I hope that he rings you as well. Did you ask your friend if he was okay?

[boxtops]

Conne, to be honest, lots of people don't these days, and I don't like it any more than you do. It's very rare for the younger generation to thank us for Christmas or birthday presents, even though they see us in person. Over hthe years we've given engagement presents, wedding presents, new baby presents - not a word, so we don't even know without asking that the things have arrived. This is tbh one reason why we have stopped sending gifts to some people at all, they get a card, nothing more.

[EcclesCake]

Do you have any kind of relationship with your friends son?

Does he live with your friend, as it isn't clear from your post?

Why do you assume you won't receive a formal thank you after the wedding?

I'm sorry to say this but you are incredibly generous with you

[Connemmara]

this is how I feel when it comes to my nephew (whom I don't know) will be getting married in May - we are getting invites but we don't know them him and girl.

We did send for the first sister (didn't know her as well) but I feel (oh to hell - I don't care what he thinks) I am sending them frig all.

[Connemmara]

sorry eccles incredibly generous with your ^^^^^

[murraymints]

I ,personally, would decline an invitation to a wedding if I didn't know them, smacks of another invite another gift !

[Prudie]

I wouldn't get too het up about it. If they follow tradition then it's the bride's responsibility to do thank you letters after the wedding, not as gifts arrive.

[EcclesCake]

Oops....

You are incredibly generous with your gifts be it Birthday/Christmas/Tips/Wedding however you have enormous expectations regarding how your gifts should be received.

If your generosity isn't being acknowledged to your satisfaction perhaps you should rein in your generosity?

[Connemmara]

I do have to say my friend's children or lads are truly spoilt but not bad fellas.

[pixie373]

Perhaps she is saving anything given for the wedding day.

[anneasquith]

conn, I agree with prudie, im sure you will receive a thank you card after the wedding. it was nice of your friend to call though.

[Connemmara]

sorry Eccles you need to reign that in - I am only looking for one word Thank you not too much to ask even if I have been overly generous. I like that word THANK YOU (repeating myself there)

[Connemmara]

i am sure I will get a thank you card but it should not have come from my friend initially. Eccles no I don't ever expect the generosity I give out to come back to me cos I know people don't have it.

[EcclesCake]

I'm sorry for my disjointed post.

I think you are being hasty in assuming you will not receive a formal thank you after the wedding.

[EcclesCake]

Sorry, Conne but some of your past posts have revealed a shocking lack of gratitude for the gifts you have received.

I am sure you will receive an appropriate acceptance for your wedding gift after the wedding.

[Connemmara]

i am sure I will Eccles

[sherrardk]

I should think you will receive a thank you front he happy couple AFTER the actual wedding.

[Mamyalynne]

I too agree with the others, what has likely happened is the son has said 'I must thank Conne' and she has said to do a formal thank you card after the wedding and she would thank you informally to let you know it had been received.

[Prudie]

Conne would you rather your friend had said nothing? I don't really understand your thinking, if my daughter was getting married and a friend put a gift through my door I would certainly thank them without a thought even if a formal thank you was coming later from my child.