do men with partners watch porn or do i need to worry

[babsthebunny]

i have been on my partners laptop and well i seem to find is port and weather sites and of coruse facebook but i am not bothered about most of then but the porn sites. we dont do it that often cos he is tired after work and i am at work late some night but should i let it go and let him watch porn or how do i let him know it is not right i have in the passed and he just flips not in a violant way but not happy when i ask him if he wanks when i am not about he just wont tell me what is wrong with him or is it me should i not know that kind of think we have been together now 5 years and we live together


please help me

[RATTER15]

I don't think you need to worry too much, it doesn't sound like your that bothered, as long as it is mainstream porn then leave him too it if it isn't bothering you.

[ummmm]

Most men, and many women, watch porn.

It's not a reflection on you...it's a quick and easy way of sexual release.

Maybe you should be more open and see it for what it is...

[mollykins]

My dad does and he's been married nearly 17 years . . .

[ummmm]

How do you know your dad does??

[China Doll]

I think most men in relationships will have looked at porn and masturbated at some point. I also think that a lot of women probably do as well! Watching porn together can be quite fun. I think unless the chap in question is spending all day and night on porn sites and it's effecting your relationship (he'd rather do that than have rudies with you) then it's really not that big a deal.

However it's up to you what you find acceptable and if you can't accept that then maybe this relationship is not for you if your chappie doesn't see that he's doing anything too awful.

[mollykins]

Mum told me she had to use his memory stick to take something into uni and she found a load of stuff on it.

Dad sometimes asks me to check his lottery account to see if he's won, which involves going onto his favourites, one site of which sounds rather spurious.

Late at night when me and mum are in bed we hear stuff on the tele cos he has it too loud and mum has to shout down for him to turn it down.

Is that evidence enough?

[dnaan]

not unnormal for him to look at porn, but why does sex have to be a chore(him being tired), try and spice up your sex life so that you can do it for him

[babsthebunny]

he is on it when ever i am not about i woke up this morning and heard a noise so later i looked on computer and saw today that he has been on porn it does bother me abit cos we dont do it often but he is on it when i am not about and he cant even talk about Auditing it is like i am the devil and i would kill him but i wouldnt i would be upset cos he could make abit of effort to have sex with me instead of his hand and eyes i dont wanna leave him cos i do love him but how do i tread lightly

[milly143]

My Dad was admitted to hospital recently so I went home to get him a few bits a pieces he would need for his stay. I went into his underwear draw to get some pants for him and when I opened it was confronted by his little porn collection. As it was my Dad the thought of it made me a little queezy but I didn't really care. Tunrs out he had called my brother in a panic telling him what I would find but my brother wanted to see the comedy unfold so didn't tell me. Not a word has ever been said about between me and Dad.
I don't think my b/f watches it much, if at all but I wouldn't care if he did. He's been to strip clubs and I don't care. It's all just fantasy. I think you would be hard pressed to find a guy that hasn't watched porn.

[China Doll]

Well if he wants a quick release he's hardly going to look at porn when you're about! You could iniate sex more, see how that goes.

[milly143]

" i would be upset cos he could make abit of effort to have sex with me instead "

Have you tried making the effort with him?

[ummmm]

China...they'll still watch porn though.

porn is how Ginger learnt how to use the internet...lol

[China Doll]

Oh yeah, for sure... so will I! I just meant that if the fact they're not having sex that often is bothering her, then she should take the iniative and see how that goes.

[ummmm]

She should...yes.