ChatterBank1 min ago
Children or partner?
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Watching this morning....
Theyre discussing folk saying who they love most their kids or their OH?
A guy said his wife before his kids and has sparked a bit of outrage?
Others say same, some say its a different love!?
Blood is thicker than water???
Im pretty sure once my dad told me "well i chose to marry your mum" lol...which i took that he chose her and not me...so i wonder who is fave is eh!!!
Xxxxx
Theyre discussing folk saying who they love most their kids or their OH?
A guy said his wife before his kids and has sparked a bit of outrage?
Others say same, some say its a different love!?
Blood is thicker than water???
Im pretty sure once my dad told me "well i chose to marry your mum" lol...which i took that he chose her and not me...so i wonder who is fave is eh!!!
Xxxxx
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I love both my OH and my children absolutely however they are different kinds of love.
When my two were growing up my OH knew that they always came first - he was a big boy who was more than capable of looking after himself, the children at that time weren't. Once he got his head around that things were fine (just as well really, if he had ever asked me to choose it...
When my two were growing up my OH knew that they always came first - he was a big boy who was more than capable of looking after himself, the children at that time weren't. Once he got his head around that things were fine (just as well really, if he had ever asked me to choose it...
12:34 Mon 18th Jun 2012
Oh two separate strands of the same emotion in my mind.
The love for your partner is ever changing and growing - from the sheer chemistry of early days filled with passion, developing into feeling that the two of you are part of a whole and as you grow togehter there is almost no memory of being a single soul.
The love for your children is so absolutely overpowering from that first moment they enter the world, you become the universal soldier, determined to stave off all the world will throw at them - you don't of course you let them grow with love and eventually let them fly with their own wings, knowing they will return to you.
The love for your partner is ever changing and growing - from the sheer chemistry of early days filled with passion, developing into feeling that the two of you are part of a whole and as you grow togehter there is almost no memory of being a single soul.
The love for your children is so absolutely overpowering from that first moment they enter the world, you become the universal soldier, determined to stave off all the world will throw at them - you don't of course you let them grow with love and eventually let them fly with their own wings, knowing they will return to you.
For my OH it will always be his daughter. I once said to him that if both she and I were drowning he would save her rather than me. He said he'd save both of us, but I know which would be first. She is nearly 24 and in her final year at university. He helps her with all her work. I am not allowed to suggest that perhaps she ought to stand on her own two feet now before she goes out into the big, bad world, because as he says I have no children of my own and don't know what I'm talking about. What he doesn't realise is that I do understand that she comes first, but I'm afraid he's smothering her.
I love both my OH and my children absolutely however they are different kinds of love.
When my two were growing up my OH knew that they always came first - he was a big boy who was more than capable of looking after himself, the children at that time weren't. Once he got his head around that things were fine (just as well really, if he had ever asked me to choose it would have been his @rse right out the door, no questions asked, and he knew it.)
Despite my girls coming first, as a husband he has wanted for nothing and now that they are up and (almost) independent he pretty much has my undivided attention. When I'm not on here of course ;-)
When my two were growing up my OH knew that they always came first - he was a big boy who was more than capable of looking after himself, the children at that time weren't. Once he got his head around that things were fine (just as well really, if he had ever asked me to choose it would have been his @rse right out the door, no questions asked, and he knew it.)
Despite my girls coming first, as a husband he has wanted for nothing and now that they are up and (almost) independent he pretty much has my undivided attention. When I'm not on here of course ;-)
read the story - it started off about who you would save if you needed to chuck folk out of a hot air balloon to save the rest - and started of with Mother Teresa v Ghandi, that sort of thing and then the woman said "me or the kids" and he said he would chuck himself out and she pushed him and he didn't know what the right answer was supposed to be, but his wife was horrified saying that for her it would be chuck him and save the kids and that surely he should feel the same?
I feel love for all my family, but in different ways, as others have advised.
i think anyone who starts apportioning their love for one individual family member over another is asking for trouble, and being utterly cruel as well.
Who ever wants to think they come second-best to a parent or partner's love?
It's a bizarre theme for a conversation - i would have no truck with it all if it were ever raised with me - not that it would, it's not something that occurs.
i think anyone who starts apportioning their love for one individual family member over another is asking for trouble, and being utterly cruel as well.
Who ever wants to think they come second-best to a parent or partner's love?
It's a bizarre theme for a conversation - i would have no truck with it all if it were ever raised with me - not that it would, it's not something that occurs.
Of course in an ideal world tink's question would never arise A-H but for some people it does. You only have to read smowball's post of this morning to be aware that people can and do feel threatened by their partner's/children's/sibling's love for others.
Tis perhaps not a nice thought but most people have probably asked a 'me or them' type question of their partner.
Tis perhaps not a nice thought but most people have probably asked a 'me or them' type question of their partner.
There was an article in the paper (the Daily Mail....oh the shame!) along similar lines. The author asked his wife who she would jettison from a balloon in an emergency.
She said she would jettison the hubby, and the hubby said he would jettison the kids.
I love Mr O dearly but he would be the one I would jettison, not the kids.
She said she would jettison the hubby, and the hubby said he would jettison the kids.
I love Mr O dearly but he would be the one I would jettison, not the kids.