Xmas presents

[4getmenot]

My blokes brother has just got together with a girl who already has two girls and he's just said to his siblings, dont worry about buying for me for xmas just buy for the kids! I understand as you get older and its gets more costly its easier to just buy for children, but they are not even his and we've only met them once at a wedding!! Would you buy them in my situation??

[daffy654]

I would buy them something small and inexpensive.

[China Doll]

Yes I would.

[bednobs]

i would wait till nearer the time to see if they're still together!

[radiogaga]

no beating around the bush their then.! what are the girls age's?
i reckon spend around £10 each would be reasonable.

[China Doll]

Yes good point from bednobs, I probably won't be buying any christmas presents until December so assuming they're together then yes I would.

[ummmm]

Yes, I would also.

[4getmenot]

I'd still buy for the brother but I dont know the kids. And we dont have kids of our own so seems silly. They have been together about 6 months she's already pregnant. since I've known him he's had about 10 girlfriends and they have all had children already, I personally think he is gay and this is his chance to have a child before he comes out.

[China Doll]

To me it wouldn't matter about his history, I like to buy presents and I particularly like to buy presents for children as christmas really means something to them. Plus his present from me would be me buying the kids presents as that's what he asked for if that makes sense.

[LoftyLottie]

Did you buy gifts for the other children of the other girlfriends? Personally, I wouldn't buy for this girlfriends children or for the girlfriend. I think it's cheeky that he asked, especially as that you really don't them or their mother.

But then I am an old scrooge about Christmas.

[LoftyLottie]

However, if he is still with her and obviously the baby will be here in December 2012, I would then buy for all three children.

[4getmenot]

new baby here by next april. Would be different if we were seeing them at xmas then I would obviously buy kids a present if I saw them on the day. And no never bought other ones presents, he wasnt with them long enough lol

[Maydup]

If in doubt buy them a tin of sweets to share amongst the whole family.

[LoftyLottie]

He has put you in a difficult position. You probably wouldn't have considered buying the kids present if he hadn't said what he did. In my mind it was his way of asking you to buy them presents.

[4getmenot]

well if I just still get him something he doesnt have reason to moan

[LoftyLottie]

True. And probably he still expects you get him something!! Devious in my opinion.

[4getmenot]

he never buys for anyones birthdays, yet he's the type that will say just before his what he would like

[B00]

if the girlfriend's pregnant, can we safely assume they're going to be together for a while then? What were you going to do for future Christmas's, just buy for the baby but not the other children?

To be blunt, i think its quite mean of you to even think about not getting children in his ready made family presents. They don't have to be expensive, but they're kids, small ones at that, and it would be really nice if their auntie bought them something- wouldn't it?

[4getmenot]

oh B00 yes of course I would 'if' they are still together next xmas just like I will when babies born as I know children feel left out. But seen as I have never even spoken to mum just seen kids once and they dont come to any family meals I find it a bit cheeky.

[B00]

well personally, id still buy for the kids- it's what Christmas is about (religion? what religion? LOL) innit?

[sherrardk]

Maybe your brother was indicating that his girlfriend is the 'one' and that he would like her and her children included in the family?