my sons have gone to london

[slinky.kate]

they left 2 hours ago,they are going to try and sort stuff out for my brothers funeral and clear out his flat.

[Mamyalynne]

It has been a dreadful time for you Kate, try to take care of yourself darling. Have you anyone nearby to talk to?

[lady-janine]

hope all goes well and smoothly and that it is not too traumatic. thinking of you all.

[slinky.kate]

hi mamy,no i'm on my own now but i can phone my ex in case i need anyone or take ill,they found out my brother died of a deep vein thrombosis in his leg,and he passed away in his sleep.2 days later my sister phoned ne and told me my niece was taken into hospital with a bloodclot in her leg,it was affecting her lungs so she was kept in for 2 days,its unreal all this stuff.

[ttfn]

Hi Kate - what a time to be going through. My best wishes to you ♥

[shivvy]

Oh Kate, that sounds like a sad and scary situation. I wish you all the very best in the coming hours, days and beyond.

[Mamyalynne]

A terrible shock to the system and am just glad you do have access to someone if you need them. There is always someone here to listen if the loneliness gets to you. Lots of us have had times when we feel the need to reach out, I know I have, and kind words have been there in an instant.

[lady-janine]

how very awful for you. do hope you manage to get some sleep tonight and you have someone you can talk to if absolutely necessary (you can always chat to us and let us know how you feel. after all we will all do our best to support you.
on a practical note i would suggest that you all have reular check-ups for blood pressure, etc. some things are a family weakness - in mine its alcohol. please feel you can talk to us if you need to.

[slinky.kate]

thanks guys x x x

[shivvy]

Do you want to chat about anything now kate? It's late and you are still up, maybe you want to talk?

[slinky.kate]

thanks shivvy,i cant shake this feeling that he's in london lying in a mortuary,we tried to sort things out in glasgow ,but cant,as its differant laws for scotland and england,i feel as if i'm in limbo.i just hope the boys can sort it out and make the arrangements without me being there,i am not well eneugh to travel.

[Mamyalynne]

Kate darling. try as hard as it is not to worry things will get sorted and then you can somehow start to make your peace with the situation, your boys will do you proud am sure. ♥

[slinky.kate]

the boys just phoned me to say they were about 25 miles away from blackpool,and the roads are empty,so they are making good progress,i sent them away tith a flask of soup and some sandwiches.

[Mamyalynne]

Well there you go, what a team.

[shivvy]

It sounds to me as if you are doing everything you can kate.
You might not be able to travel, so your boys have gone on a very important journey to do what needs to be done.
You should be proud of yourself that you have raised lads that are strong enough to stand up to what needs to be done - well done you (and them).

I think one of the hardest things about bereavement is the thought of a loved one lying somewhere by themselves until the funeral happens. I don't know if you are but I am not religious. However, does it help to think that he has passed on and no longer needs his body? It wasn't his body that you loved. You loved HIM - his personality and soul - not his physicality.

[slinky.kate]

my tablets are starting to kick in so i will go to bed now,thank you all so much,goodnight.

[Mamyalynne]

Night Kate, sleep well and know that all will sort, thinking of you.

Mamya

[shivvy]

Night night kate.
I will be here all tomorrow morning if you want to chat.
Take care.

Shivvy
xxx

[lady-janine]

any news yet? hope it is not too distressing.

[slinky.kate]

everything is arranged now ,the funeral can be anytime after next wednesday,i have to pick 3 songs,do you think andreas bocelli'because we believe 'would be suitable,i think it would be most apt,i dont know any others though

[ttfn]

Well at last you can make the arrangements Kate. Trust your boys had a good journey to London. I think that sounds lovely. Did your brother have any particular favourite songs or singers? Perhaps some of the good ABers will be able to suggest something that you will like. Hope you are coping ok ♥