Genital warts

[speechless]

I have just been cleaning out some cupboards and I have found a perscription for genital warts belonging to my partner dated Dec 06. I am speechless to say the least. I have googled this and found that it is only transmitted sexually. I don't have them (well not as far as I know). We did split up last year for about 6 months and to my knowledge he did not have any partners in that time. When we got back together I did try to instigate sex but he refused saying his penis was a bit tender and red, I asked what was wrong but he said 'nothing'.

My question is could 'podophyllotoxin' be perscribed for any other non-transmitted ailments?

if not, I am really disappointed and don't know what to do or say to him, if he had been with someone else I could have accepted that as we were apart, but just feel slightly betrayed (not the right word I want to use) that he didn't tell me and could have possibly have put me at risk.

Any help would be appreciated.

[sunflower71]

I suffer from cold sores and I often wonder if somehow this can be passed on to the genitals obviously I know it can but what I mean is if I accidently gave it to hubby would he automatically think ive had sex with someone.

Also does it mean you can catch it from veruccas and warts?

Anyway I do feel that if he has caught this from a one night stand (for example) then he should have told you but then again why would he leave it in your bathroom?

good luck with it. maybe post a link on the main B&S section too.

[speechless]

Thank you sunflower, I will post it in body and Soul.

P.S. The perscription was at the back of a drawer full of kitchen junk in the kitchen, not sure what it was doing there.

[China Doll]

Genital warts I believe has an incubation period as do a lot of STD's and you can carry it without knowing you have it. Perhaps it was only when his penis got sore that he went to the GP and got it diagnosed. If you want more information on this virus then go on the NHS Direct website.

But you won't know the answer to these questions unless you ask him. Just be straight up. Say you found the medication and you'd like an explanation.Chances are he wants to tell you and hasn't a clue how to, it's not like it comes up in everyday conversation eh?

Listen to what he has to say and then react. Until you know all the facts you'll be sitting in the little grey place you are and frankly that doesn't sound like it's doing you any good petal.

Good luck.

[speechless]

Thank you China Doll, you are right, I am not in a good place at the moment. I know I have to ask him and need to know the truth but part of me doesn't want to know either!

[cockroach]

I'd go to the Doc's & ask to be examined for them. You now could have them too or before, then you could ask the docs opinion too.

[China Doll]

What you want to know and what you need to know are two different things.

You have to talk to him. It's not an option not to. Just take a deep breath and say it. Good luck.

[speechless]

Thank you all. I have spoken to him about it and it seems that he contracted them over six years ago (before he met me) and this was the first re-occurence since then and that he has been very careful not to infect me hence the perscription and abstaining from sex.

I do feel a little better, still a little shocked, especially since he can be quite vocal and whollier than thou about these sort of things!

Anyway, I have no physical symptoms but am going to make an appointment with the doctor just to be sure.

I really do appreciate all you help. Thank you

[China Doll]

Pleased to hear it worked out petal... sometimes it pays to hold your reaction. Take care xx

[Goodsoulette]

Yup, the virus that causes these never goes away. He cannot be cured of it. He could have had for his whole active sexual life.

[speechless]

China Doll you were so right to say to hold the reaction I dread to think how it would have turned out otherwise.

Goodsoulette, yes, i came across that when googling this evening. Bit cr@p really as it would appear it was a one night stand, but those are the chances people take I suppose, I know I have in the past.

[jno]

well, basically speechless, you've taken the risk with your partner, though you didn't know it. No doubt he found it hard to tell you about it... but that doesn't matter, he damn well should have. Anyway, what's done is done; get yourself checked out. You're quite likely fine, but as Goodsoulette says, the virus doesn't go away, so you might like to consider precautions in future.