what do you think

[Connemmara]

I finally went out after being so ill with vertigo and severe tinnitus. To a dance - may I say. (friends dont know my problem) Anyway it is a bit long winded - one of these friends has come in to £60,000 and has not spent it - now I have my own money and dont any piece of it but when we were away in March - she did pay for a lovely meal. This other friend has been stressing me from March when she asked (as I thought a perfectly friendly question) oh did she pay for the weekend to which I said no. Well since March she has went mad mad mad and has stressed me to the max. I have to say this other friend has stopped seeing her - and seeing them together on Friday I was in nerves that the friend in particular would start - so after staying for a while I left - also the music was deafining woosome and I could not bear it in my hears so that was another reason. I have also assured them there is to be no parties in my house as I now have to think of my neighbour who has problems galore. That was on Friday and I have not heard from any other of them. Perhaps they are now fell out with me now.

[ummmm]

One is friend is going 'mad mad mad' about what?

When was this dance?

[Connemmara]

mad mad mad about the other friend not paying for the weekend - since I had taken them all about 12 of them some 5 years when I retired so she thinks she should have receiprocated and also night was last Friday

[Connemmara]

sorry eddie - the music was horrific - forget about the music it is the friends stuff i would like an answer to - thanks

[ummmm]

It's got nothing to do with your friend what the other friend does with her money. If you decided to take your friends away then that was your choice. Obviously that is not what Mrs 60k is choosing to do with hers.

Why would they have fell out with you?

[boxtops]

Connemmara, it sounds as if the friend who keeps stressing you has a problem with your rich friend, not with you - but these sort of friends you can do without. Why don't you contact the person holding the party and say you didn't feel well so left early, apologies (which is true)? - and say nothing to the troublesome one.
If she's fell out with you, just let her, at least you'll have some peace.

[EvianBaby]

I don't get it.

[ummmm]

I've really really struggled with it.

[rowanwitch]

Perhaps they need to rethink where they stand with each other... I'd gve it a bit more time and see what happens... the friend with the money may have serious plans for it so can't afford to treat you all... after all its not a huge amount and she might want to use it to do something she's always wanted...or pay off debts...or even put it in trust for children or grandchildren

It seems the problem isn't with you...although being ill they might not think you have been much fun lately...but if that is the case which I doubt then are they the sort of friends you want.... give it another week or so and perhaps have a separate chat with them and see if you can help smooth thingsover

[4getmenot]

i read that twice and still dont know what i would think, or even what i would think about what?

[boxtops]

I believe the gist of it is that Connemmara has one friend who keeps on and on abut paying for things, because (possibly) one friend has a lot of money and C paid for a trip away in March. The friend is obviously very money oriented, doesn't seem that it's anything to do with C's money, but the needy friend is stressing her out.

[4getmenot]

go get a new group of friends. Problem solved.

[ummmm]

Summary if I've got it right...

Connemmara took friends away 5 years ago...after she retired.

Then in March some friends went away again. Friend 1 has come into 60k (she brought a nice meal while they were away) Friend 2 seems to think that friend 1 should have paid for the trip...and is going mad mad mad..

?

[boxtops]

I think that's it, ummm

[ummmm]

Sounds like playground stuff tbh...

[EvianBaby]

Oh right, so you've basically got one friend who's eaten a big old bag of sour grapes.

Tell her to man up.

[boxtops]

I wouldn't tell her anything, I'd leave her well alone, tbh.

[Connemmara]

sorry for the muddled stuff that is how my head is but UMM got it right.

[Connemmara]

I have told friend one to mind her own business but she is adamtant to start on rich friend. I am sick and stressed of it all.

[cazzz1975]

bizarre, 60K whilst is a healthy sum does not mean this woman should start splashing around the dosh. my advice would be to split the cost of any further trips between you rather than let someone pay the whole bill.

I would prefer to pay my own way