Opinions Wanted,dont Hold Back

[sinderella]

I know some people post the usual, my partner , dad, boyfriend, mate..
is an angel but on this occasion........blah blah blah blah
fight.punch.been arrested.asking for advice.
i always want to post "my advice is keep your hands to yourself"
as ive noticed lots of removed posts
i truly would like to know what you would like to tell them.
Dont hold back!

[Zacs-Master]

Erm....no ta.

[Svejk]

strange that we're not allowed an opinion on those threads, that's what I think. Will this thread survive?

[grasscarp]

I want to advise some of the females involved in being hit and then wanting to withdraw their statement, let him go. But then I remember I was once with a occasionally violent partner and you dont listen to advice - and think you are "in love" and it will change. So I dont say anything to these unfortunate people.

[ummmm]

It's obvious why. You'll just have pages of peoples opinions and hardly any answering the actual questions.

People get into fights....its not always their fault.

[Baldric]

Going to say the same here as I do on those threads!

[AB Editor]

This is a site for answering questions - not just spouting your opinion. If all you can contribute on a serious thread, on a serious topic, is your own smug judgement I suggest you keep it to yourself.

[AB Editor]

(This is a general comment and not aimed at you in particular Sinderella - although it does read back like that!)

[sunny-dave]

I agree entirely with Mr Ed - I'm not daft :)

... but (you just sort of heard that 'but' coming didn't you?) .. it's sometimes a very fine line between 'answering the question' and 'being judgemental'.

To give a generic example (based on several real questions/answers), how about someone who is asking for advice on reclaiming bank charges for late payment on a credit card.

If I give some ideas on words to use in a letter/email that's fine - but it doesn't seem (to me) unreasonable to add a rider to my answer along the lines of "paying a couple of days earlier in future will avoid this situation recurring".

But I've had answers of this type zapped and a waving of admonitory fingers in my direction.

[Svejk]

I don't want to join the 'non-people' either. However the site is full of opinions. Don't see why someone having an opinion is being smug.

[boxtops]

There are times when I've really wanted to say to someone " that's what happens when you get drunk and out of control of yourself" or "about time you chose to keep better company, then" - but what good would that do (apart from getting me removed for being judgemental)?

[Sqad]

sinderella..........there is no foolproof method of ensuring the survival of your post on a thread. it depends upon who is on AB, which Mod, what mood they are in, if you are being "judgmental and not giving an opinion, I have even seen Ed make comments on a thread which had it of been anyone else, would have been removed.

Say what you have to say...........and if it is reported and removed, then ...so be it." Better to have loved and lost than have never loved at all" (I have no idea what that has got to do with it.LOL)

There will be some who say I have never had a post removed......and that is true........those are the ones that i would not turn my back on.

Happy posting sindy.

[shoota]

If I can't (or don't want to) help - I keep quiet.


I just wish some others would too.

[shoota]

(unless it's in batterchank when it's open season.....)

[B00]

I avoid those kind of posts/questions like the plague as I invariably want to leave a "Oh for the love of God, get a bloody grip of yourself" type of reply. I've been reliably informed that my kind of solution isn't usually well received :-(

[pixie373]

I think sometimes that's exactly what people need to hear, boo. If a factual reply is asked for - that's what they want, but when there's a more complicated "situation", i think it's quite natural to have an opinion. I'm sure that's why they post the extra details. I try to reply as I would to a friend, good or bad, but with their best interests at heart.

[woofgang]

what B00 said. If they are asking for what should I do advice then i speak my mind. If its what will he/she get, how can I withdraw my statement, then i stay out.

[joeluke]

Opinions are allowed on here - unless they don't sit right with fellow ABers or the AB hierarchy

Best just posting what other people want to hear, saves your posts being removed

[sinderella]

all answers marked as best :)

[sinderella]

i think i will add.
we have jobs and go to university!