Ok, lets think outside of this box a bit. If you like the Audi, you'll like the Golf (same mechanicals). Might not have quite the image of the Audi but the GTi rocks. If image matters, what about a BMW 320d? I think its What Car's car of the year. Or if you're looking A3 size, you can look at the BMW 1 Series (very under-rated car). The 130i is a barnstormer.
Incidentally, my wife only buys BMWs and she only does school runs and things like that. But she didn't like the X3. Thought it unrefined and sluggish.