Has Anyone Ever Lost Their Child?

[ummmm]

Not being flippant (I'm watching The Missing)

I lost my son once. I'm very grateful for some advice I got, obviously teach them about stranger danger, but that doesn't always work. I taught them that if they ever lost sight of me to sit down and start screaming.

He was only about 3 and I didn't realise he understood.

Then my MIL told me a story about my OH and his sister. She was buying stuff in MotherCare and he got on one of the toys and road out the shop, his sister followed but went in the opposite direction. MIL caught up with his sister but couldn't find him. She was looking frantically for him when someone approached her asking had she lost a little ginger boy (both his mother and sister are ginger) he was in the shopping centre talking to an elderly man.

See...ginger hair has it's purposes!! :-D

[ummmm]

The title of this thread actually sounds bad. I mean you lost them for a few minutes.

Sorry if it causes offence x

[Samuraisan]

I lost both my sons together once, in the zoo in Madrid. Absolute panic until we found them in the enclosure watching the dophins. They were about 4 and 5. Lost one of them again in a shopping mall , he was called over the tannoy, again, absolute panic. Dreadful , dreadful, thanfully short, experience, but oh so long ago...... ( whistful face)

[ummmm]

Awful. I found a crying little girl in a supermarket who'd lost her mum. The distress on her her little face. I just sat on the floor and calmly told her what we're going to do. Took her to customer services and waited with her until her mum arrived. Her mum looked distressed as well.

There's no panic like it.

[Prudie]

I lost my daughter in Tesco when she was about 5 however she'd gone to a member of staff and I got tannoyed. I was very embarrassed and she found it highly amusing.

[jno]

not me but my Mum lost my brother when he was about 4. She took him to the doctor but somehow he slipped away. She was really desperate. To our amazement he had walked home, half a mile away.
Fortunately it was all long ago and far away when theere weren't many cars, let alone abducters.

[Rockrose]

I found a 7 year old wandering in her nightwear on a country road twenty years ago turns out she walk out of the kiddie home without anyone seeing her! I found her at 1130 at night- I still shudder thinking about what could have happened

[Sqad]

Yes! yes! no big deal, all four have been "lost " at some time but unfortunately we found them again. One was found on the top of the big wheel at Butlin's, swinging the seat backwards and forwards and I yelled to him to keep still........but then i thought.......

Mrs sqad found a crying child in Palma airport, took him by the hand and retraced his steps........mother came up, snatched him away and gave Mrs sqad a " mouthful".....not a thank you in sight.

Hardly worthy of a thread...i would have thought.

[ummmm]

RR...that's another worry. I sleep walk. I always used to worry if my kids might be the same.

It tends to happen at times of stress so Ginge locks the door and takes the key out.

There are other ways to escape in case of fire.

[Peter Pedant]

I returned a lost child to his muvva and was treated as tho I had abducted him ! way before venables .... late sixties

and that taught me always to holler - lost child! etc....

[sanmac]

Sqad, I know how much you like BAs; however, you're not getting one this time.

[ummmm]

Sqad...but you answered.

Like I said I'm watching 'The Missing' a young boy has gone missing.

[Peter Pedant]

o god I fished a kid out of a swimming pool
her first breath was like a whale surfacing
and was treated with a lot of spanish so what?

and overheard a 'wod you spik to dat man for?' as the teenage guardian went on talking to the guapo

had nightmares for weeks afterwards

[sanmac]

Well, I guess that's me being told:)

[Calicogirl]

My Mum misplaced one of my siblings in a shopping centre once- utter panic obviously, but security sealed off all exits and little rotter was found really quickly thank God.

I'm a massive fan of child harnesses or 'kid leashes' as Mr Cal likes to call them, I can't imagine the horror someone must feel when their child is suddenly not there.

[ummmm]

Sanmac...I just had to do it :-)

[ummmm]

Cal...I was so grateful that my oldest son was very small so I could get away with him being in a double buggy with his brother.

[sanmac]

I know, ummmm, I know:) Anyway, I'm off...Cheers.

[douglas9401]

If anyone has any sure-fire tips for losing one as he turns 25 and doesn't take subtle hints about moving out I'd be grateful.

Downsizing of Scotland.

[woofgang]

PP my husband would never get involved with small children in supermarkets etcetera....you know toddler diving out gthe door while Mum's back is turned etcetera for exactly the reason that you give...he would send me instead. I remember him saying that he was well known locally (he was fairly senior in one of the biggest local employers and a hotbed of gossip) and that mud sticks. A sad state of affairs but I totally understood

[ummmm]

Lol Douge. My son has a bedroom downstairs. We got it all decorated, plastered, painted, new carpet, new light fittings...and he only comes here when he's drunk...and he doesn't pay rent.