Advice Of A Personal Matter

[Ric.ror]

My son had just found out his best friends girlfriend - who both live in Canada - has been unfaithful on a recent trip home to Scotland. There is a ‘video’ and it’s doing the rounds
Should he tell his friend or wait until he finds out
Apparently someone else has given my son a ‘you tell him or I shall’ ultimate

[Theland]

Tell your son to keep his counsel.

[Prudie]

If he's a real best friend yes - especially as his mum has posted about it :-) He's going to find out anyway.

[-Talbot-]

If he is his best friend ... then it is his duty to tell him.

[Sqad]

So the girlfriend came on a trip to Scotland from Canada and found time to have sex and have it videoed, leaving her boyfriend back in Canada..................is that it?

Tell your son, to mind his own business.

[sherrardk]

Your son should tell his friend, best coming from him than someone else.

[LadyCG]

Someone should tell him. Your son just needs to decide who his mate would rather hear it from.

It's no enviable task but I wish someone had told me when my scumbag ex was cheating on me.

The sooner the the poor chap knows, the sooner he can move on without the little tramp.

[Sqad]

Has your son seen the "video?" Is it hearsay?
Has their relationship in Canada finished.
Has you son a clear conscience?

Keep out of it.
"Fools rush in where angels fear to tread."

[237SJ]

I`d let the other person tell him.

[MallyJ]

If your son is to tell his best friend then he needs to make absolutely sure that this has happened and if he decides to tell his friend then he should also be prepared to lose his best friend...the bearers of bad news are not usually thanked.

[Tilly2]

Your son should tell the other person where to stick their ultimatum.

[Rockrose]

Keep out of it his friend won’t thank him for it

[andy-hughes]

You should keep out of it on all fronts - if your son's friend and his girlfriend are adult enough to have sex, they are adult enough to negotiate the consequences.

[Ric.ror]

My son doesn’t live in Canada his friend dies with his girlfriend
She came home for Christmas and a family christening and then did the deed
It’s a horrible dilemma for anyone to be in and he’s having a few problems himself at the moment - not if a romantic nature but still I know he will want to be a good friend and support despite the distance

[murraymints]

nahhh...keep oot o' it !! let the "other" spill the beans

[Peter Pedant]

I think time will tell ( pun intended)

it is all about does that group do - kill the messenger thing?

if the group tends to stigmatise tale-tellers then he should keep schtum.

thirty years ago we operated a complete knowledge system amongst the junior bag-carriers. It involved re-telling idle tittle tattle to the whole group. Great fun

[ChillDoubt]

If someone said to me:
If you don’t tell him, I will my reply would be “Fill your boots!”

[Peter Pedant]

your son could say

I heard a story and didnt believe it
checking it - I didnt think was my role

[jno]

your son should keep out of it, let the "someone" do the tattling.

[-Talbot-]

Your son can't win.

He doesn't say anything and his mate when he finds out will ask.


Did you know about this?
And then
How long have you know about this?

[kvalidir]

Crikey keep out of it, your sons needs to be getting involved in this like a hole in the head and whoever gave him the ultimatum needs to grow up. No-one know IF this happened, and if it did no-one knows WHY this happened, she might have owned up by now for all you know or they might have an open relationship and if so then the friend won't thank anyone discussing it anywhere. Equally it might have been a one off terrible error of judgement. People and their relationships are best left alone.