Nosy Neighbours - Please help

[Cinnabon]

We have lived in our house for over two years now.
I have a problem which is driving me mad.
My neighbours constantly watch me from the windows.
If I go out, my husband go out, we have guests over, have a parcel delivered. They just watch.
It's driving me crazy and makes me feel down.
Its very embarrasing especially when we have friends over.
My neighbours live in a very big, joint family but its mainly the women and kids who watch from the windows.
I have tried to talk to them (as we were friends before) but they dont really listen.
I'm just so fed up I feel like moving but I cant coz I have a mortgage.
I appreciate any advice and thanks in advance
(P.S. I cant even wear english party clothes (short dresses) anymore coz they just stare, stare and stare)

[123everton]

I've got a nosy neighbour who presides in judgement on other people and how they live their lives (myself included) I politely tell her to mind her own business and leave me to mine, similarly when she's going on about someone else I just say it's nonw of my business.
If all they're doing is looking out of the window talking to any of the authorities won't do any good because they've committed no crime.
Smile and be nice, if their objective is to be mean to you they'll seethe and if it is'nt they'll smile.
It seems an awful lot of fuss about nothing.
I'm surprised that you're struggling to come to terms with a solution as you're both sub-continental asians with similar social codes of manners.

[amsterdammer]

This thread from the questioners replies, seems like a wind upJust someone wanting to pass their Sunday afternoon away!!!!

[adamhornsby]

I would tell the nosy bitch to get a life and ask if they want a picture.
Do what ever you like, its your house you live there, and if they're stopping you from doing stuff you want to do, i would say thats intimidation, and you could tell the police about that.
Hehe, expose yourself, that would get them looking. Maybe you should stare at them as well, then they'll see what its like.
Are they foreign by any chance?

[whiffey]

Minter is spot on and had me in fits. They are staring at you - but what are they seeing ? I had this same problem, so I took a chair down to the bottom of the garden underneath a rose bush and sat on it completely naked. My neighbour rustled the curtains and looked out and I waved cheerily at her. If you can simulate a hand shandy at the same time as waving and grinning then so much the better.

(My neighbour moved recently)

[legend003]

More dull masturbation jokes.Oh how we all laughed.

[smurfchops]

They sound completely bored to me. Wave at them for ages until they go away, act as if you don't care and see the reaction you get. Maybe they want to be friends again !! Or am I just being very naive ??

[pussnboots]

You say you are of Indian origins and your neighbours are strictly Pakistani muslim. Well there's your answer. You are obviously more liberal and westernised than them and they will see you as an object of fasination because you have and use your freedom to the full. Women and girls who are brought up in a very strict Moslim household are kept very much under the thumb by their male husbands/fathers etc. I should stop worrying so much about this and look upon it as envy. They probably are looking at you because they in some way want to do what you do, but can't. I should just wave to them and instead of feeling intimidated start to feel sorry for them. Get on with your life as you feel fit, let them watch you being happy and free it is probably their only pleasure to look out on to what they could have living in this free country of ours.

[MWB]

Is there a way you can put a fence or trellis up along your property border? If a trellis then you could put a nice climbing plant to block them out. It would take a while to grow - but............
I agree with the waving, smiling & saying hello everytime in the meantime.

[bednobs]

you seem to know a lot about them
ie how the hell do you know they dont read english. How did they apply for benefits if they cant read. how do you know they applied for and got benefits? How do you know what thir motivations are for anything?
you seem to be making a lot of assumptions

[jedimistress]

I'm with you Amsterdammer.

[MWB]

Is there any way you can build a fence or trellis along your property border? If a trellis, you can plant a clmbing plant. It would take a while to grow - but................

And I agree, get everyone to smile, wave & say a cheery hello every time to them.

[legend003]

or expose yourself like whiffy the sex freak?

why not its perfectly normal.


IN THAILAND YOU SAD OLD PERVERT

[MWB]

Opps, posted twice.

[shylock73]

I think that by behaving the way they do they are trying to make you move so that more of their cousins can move in next door to them. This has been going on for years, that's why there are so many communities of the same race all together.

[baileybird]

buy some net curtains when they realise there is nothingo to look at they may stop and then just take it down

[Cinnabon]

Thanks for your answers everyone!
I really do appreciate the advice as its a horrible situation.
Just to reply to a few suggestions.
I cant put up a fence or border because they live across the rd so we cant block their view.
In reply to bed knobs I know about the fact that they live on benefits coz as I said in my previous post we were once friends. (And coz they cant read or write English, they used to ask if I could fill out forms for them)
In reply to amsterdammer there is no way I would make this up. I mean why would I? I just hope you never have to be in my situation.

[MWB]

Why can't you block their view? I thought that's what you wanted to do? If they live over the road, seems like putting up a fence or the like would help - a lot! By blocking a lot of their view and you not seeing them stare at you.

[Cinnabon]

Yeah, I suppose I could. I would mean blocking the driveway though and becuase they often look from the top windows I dont know how much it would block thier view.
Its still a great idea though!

[katerich48]

I don't know why you're letting it stress you out - it's not like they're going to do anything...I think they are so bored as they never get out themselves( I mean think what it must be like stuck indoors day after day) they have to just watch the world go by through the window, like those lonely old dears that you read about that sit by their windows all day. Your neighbours probably don't have a tv so what else is there to do - even if it is bloody annoying .. And if you really can't get over it just put your house up for sale and look to buy elsewhere - people do it all the time..But don't stay if it's making you miserable...

[blondie123]

Just go ahead and fly the union Jack high! I know it must be really hard but try to ignore them! Dont let them stop you doing things, just continue your life and act as if they arent there.
Have you thought about putting higher fences up maybe?
Hope you get it sorted.x