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My friend/SIL had her baby yesturday.....

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mountainboo | 13:00 Sun 10th Feb 2008 | Pregnancy
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She was in for 19 hours and although I've not heard the full story yet apparantly she had to have her waters broken for her and after the baby was born she closed up immediately and couldn't naturally have the after birth and had to then be taken to theatre to have the after birth removed. Sounds like a bloody nightmare poor thing, but what would be the procedure for that because I've never heard of them having to operate to remove the after birth. my MIL said she is very depressed this morning so I hope shes ok.
So, was it the first signs of labour for you Psychick?
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Hi mountainboo. Congratulations to your friend.
A retained placenta is not uncommon. I had one with my second child,my sister had it happen twice and I have friends that have also had it. The procedure to remove it is a general anaesthetic and a dilation and curettage(D&C)It takes about 20 minutes and there is obviously no outward sign that it has been done as the whole thing is done vaginally. You may have stitches down below as sometimes they may have to perform an episiotomy to allow access but that is rare.The main drawback is because of the anaesthetic you have to stay in hospital longer.
Hi mountainboo, congratulations to your SIL! Ive never heard of that happening either, perhaps bigmamma can shed some light as to what they do about it.

As for me, Ive had signs that Im close to going into labour, a few shows and some mild contractions. Unfortunately everything seemed to come to a halt last night and Im trying my best to get it all going again lol

Let us know how your SIL gets on, Im sure the depression will soon past once shes home with the baby and with her family and friends.

What did she have and how much?
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Hi to you both. She had a girl weighing 6lbs 14oz. MrMB just spoke to her on the phone and she seemed alot chirpier. Apparantly they gave her an epidural and a local anesthetic for the removal of the after birth but family were there whilst they were on phone so she didn't go into much detail. We said we'd give her time to recover and get to know baby at home before we go to see her as she's being bombarded with visitors. She said to MrMB that the labour was horrendous and didn't want to tell me about it for obvious reasons.....Great!!!
So labour looks like it's imminent for you then Psychick? Does it make you nervous 2nd time round? I'm getting nervous now, I'm probably not as fit as I should be for this whole labour thing but I've kept active atleast. I think my SIL could have found it so bad due to the length of the labour, I know it takes alot of stamina and endurance.
Congrats to your friend - at least it's all over now. Hope mum and baby are doing well.
Daffy's right though. My mother had a retained placenta, and because she had a home birth, as was quite common in those days, the placenta was removed with forceps!!! No anaesthetic. it must've been awful for her, but she lived to tell the tale and went on to have three more children afterwards. x
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That sounds scary icemaiden. Must have been pretty awful not to have an anesthetic.
I too had a retained placenta and it was horrible. My epidural hadn't worked during labour so after just enduring that I then had to wait a few hours before going into theatre. The epidural had made my right leg completely numb and the anaesthetists kept saying can you feel this and tapping my legs and I could! This went on for ages and eventually they had to give me a spinal. It was so degrading to have 2 men strap up your legs wide open and then have a doctor shove half their arm up you!! I just lay there crying. It was around 4 hours until I got to hold my baby in peace after it was over and nearly 4 years later the thought of having another makes me feel ill!
Oh Tigwid - DON'T!!!! How awful for you, hun - but honestly, I'm sure the same thing wouldn't happen again. Oh dear - it's put ME off having any more, I don't know about you!
And you're right mountainboo - I think my mum - and others like her - were very brave. There was no time to get her to hospital, and the job had to be done - so it was a case of grimace and bear it! Ugh.
Sorry Tigwig - spelt your name wrong at first, as I was in such a dither while I was typing!!!
don't worry! Sorry if I have worried others too I just got a bit carried away it brought it all back. I suppose they do say 2nd labours are easier!
Oh dear god, please, no more!!! Can someone please post and say that birth was like being tickled with feathers or something, please, I don't care if you are lying?
Yes warpig - I can truthfully, honestly say that despite a very long labour the first time (over 25 hours), the pain was nothing like I'd expected. I had two natural births, with no pain relief at all (probably because the gas & air'd run out, so I thought sod it to everything else!) - and was amazed that none of the horror stories I'd heard about ever happened. I know I was lucky though, and each birth's different, so if I can give any advice to people at all, I'd tell them to try and relax, use breathing techniques - and ask for pain relief if you feel you need it. x
Even though I had a retained placenta with my second the birth was a breeze. I started having contractions 10 minutes apart at 10pm,they quickly went to 5 and then 2 minutes apart.By midnight I was ready to push.The midwife broke my waters and 2 pushes later I had a baby girl at half past midnight.............all with no pain relief!!!
There you go - that's both me and Daffy said similar things. It isn't half as bad as people say it's going to be. I was even laughing with the midwives in between contractions, and once baby was on his way - it all seemed to happen very quickly. I took raspberry leaf tea from being 6 month's pregnant though. I'd heard it made giving birth quite easy, and whatever, it seemed to work for me. x
Thank you, thank you, thank you! As long as I don't know the reality until its too late, then thats ok by me.
get your raspberry leaf warpig! Ever birthis different but if they were all so painful as some are do you think anyone would have more than one child?

youllbe fine hun!
Hi mountainboo

I was nervous when things seemed to be happening yesterday but now Im just fed up, especially after being told it could go on like this for a couple of weeks!

Of course, Im now worrying about having a retained placenta seeing as Im booked in for a homebirth! lol

*Reaches for the raspberry leaf*
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Lol, sorry about that psychick. I'm sure you won't, especially as your on the 2nd baby.
I keep reading about this 'want to push', I just can't really understand or relate to what that would feel like unless a 'number 2' was imminent, can you enlighten me? Also, is the most painful bit the actual contractions or when the head comes out? Sorry to ask such a graphic question but MrMB thinks that the most painful bit is when the head comes out and I thought it was the contractions.
well if you really want a graphic answer here goes!! Of course this was just my experience, yours will be completely different but I went into hospital after bleeding and was told I was 4cm dilated after not really experiencing pain which did surprise me as I am a wimp! Anyway my waters were broken for me cos of the bleeding then things really got moving, I had a TENS machine which was OK at first but then I asked for an epidural which only numbed my leg. I felt every contraction and I am sorry to say it was the worst pain I have ever experienced. Once it came to pushing this was so exhausting I was beside myself and don't know how I got through it but I did. I am sorry if this scares you but you did ask. However, as my epidural did not work I did go through this with no effective pain relief anda big lesson I learnt was that if I ever decided to have another baby, if the epidural does not work within 30 mins to an hour get it done again! All I remember is the midwife saying don't worry it will take effect soon, and watching the hours go by on the clock and it not working. The last thing she said was if I examine you now and you are not fully dilated then I will get the anaesthaetist back. Unfortunately for me it was too late and I was totally unprepared for how physically demanding labour actually is. Once again I am sorry for telling you my 'bad' experience but I have certainly learnt from it. Don't forget there is so many forms of pain relief available and it can work for you, there really is no need for labour to be as painful as mine was. In regards to the head crowning, I did not feel this very much as I guess the epidural did actually numb this part too! I was dreading that part and actually stopped pushing as much as I feared it was going to hurt me even more. In my experience the contractions were the worst and the bit of going through transition to push was too, but that was made worse by not having the use of my right leg!
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Thanks Tigwig, sounds like you had an easy time of it then...not!! Well I did ask!!
I think, from the stories people tell me, that the medical staff you have looking after you at the time can have an effect on the experience?
MB,

as tigwig said, all births are different so scaring yourself with what may or may not happen may be pointless. Thats not to say that you should be blinkereed. Read up as much as you can on pain relief and options and go into it with an open mind. That way you will feel confortable with whats going on and not feel scared or bullied into things you dont want.

My birth experience was great but nothing like Id expected. In short i went for induction at 42 weeks after 4 weeks of painless contractions (because baby wasnt in right place). I had 3 days of gel which didnt work so on the eve of the 3rd night I had my waters broken.

within 2 hours i was in established labour. I asked for a bath ang got to 7cms with relative ease, it was just like a bad tummy ache.

After that, things moved to 9cmas but i had a lip of cervix caught over babys head, I wasnt allowed to push until it cleared, which it did after a hour or so.

The pushing was painful, for me it took 2 hours but your body takes over. It is pretty much like needing a poo, you cant fight it. The head crowing is very sore but once you get the head out the rest slides out, and i dont even recall the 3rd stage (delivering placenta) as i was cuddling my beautiful baby.

2 days later and id pretty much forgotton actually how it felt.

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