Am I just an old cynic?

[ummmm]

My daughters BF dumped her a few months back. She was all heartbroken and all that stuff. He kept her hanging on for a while but decided that it was over once and for all.

She then plans to come to England for a week or so but misses her flight. Tries to arrange another flight but then I get a message saying ex BF will drive over. Apparently he'll be staying with his Uncle in London. A few days later I get another message asking if my OH could sort him out a job (if he can he will) This convo has been going on for the last couple of weeks with her asking on a daily basis if a job had been sorted...

Anyway....they are now back together and my thoughts are that he's using her to try and get a job in England and have somewhere to stay.....she was very offended when I mentioned this.

[Count-A-Strong]

Stay tuned for another exciting episod................

[snags]

You Mothers need to learn to button it and let young love take it's true course.

And when it all goes t!ts up then you can be smug...

[China Doll]

I would not ask a favour from the parent(s) of an ex. Especially not one I had actually instigated the split with. If nothing else, it's cheeky and I think in poor taste.

[B00]

God love our kids eh ummm?

you could be right, but God help you if you mention it to her. Sit it out, it'll all come out in the wash eventually- you'll see.

[4getmenot]

Agree with snags, if it all goes wrong it is how she will learn. She needs these life lessons.

[craft1948]

Are you going to get to meet him before you make your mind up?
My daughter won't let me meet her new bloke yet, I think it's because I used to affectionately call the last one 'sh!t for brains'..............

[jno]

wot China says. bare-faced cheek there. I know some people stay on good terms with exes and their families, but since this seems to have been a traumatic breakup I'd be thinking exactly the same as you.

[jno]

B00, it's one thing to sit it out, it's another to be asked to find work for him.

[LoftyLottie]

Agree with Snags too. I didn't get to meet my son's partner for 6 months!! They have to sort these things out themselves and bite your tongue.

[ummmm]

I'm not stopping her from doing what she wants. After yet another convo about him coming over I asked if she was sure he wasn't just using her.

OH thinks he is....and thinks why should we give him somewhere to live and sort him a job..

China...my thought is it's very cheeky to expect us to help him out if she's an ex..so he got back with her. I could be cynical though...!

[jno]

could he get work as Butch's mistress? It'd solve two threads at once.

[ummmm]

Did I mention she expects him to be able to live here?

I've never met him because they're in Ireland. I would have met him otherwise...

[cazzz1975]

lol @ jno

[cazzz1975]

maybe your opinion will change when you meet him?

[ummmm]

It might do. I don't actually have an opinion of him as a person yet....the timing just seems a bit convenient in his favour.

There is always the chance she is putting pressure on him.

[LoftyLottie]

She might well be ummmm.

[ummmm]

Wouldn't surprise me Lottie....

[paddywak]

You're polite craft, many years ago I was courting a lass from Brum, and her mother always called me "That Little Bustard from Nottinghamshire" needless to say there are some things true love (or lust) just can't overcome, and one of them is a mother who just doesn't like you

[ummmm]

I don't dislike him Paddy and I'm not the type of Mother to get involved. I'm just hoping his intentions are sincere and he hasn't got back with her to make life easier for him. We were willing to try and help him out anyway.....

[paddywak]

Well ummmm. as already said all you can do is sit back and see what happens, it's not easy being a parent