watching adult movies

[confussed_lady]

My boyfriend like most men has been watching porn, this was a bit upsetting for me as we dont have sex that often and things seam to have got a bit boring recently.
I suggested that if he was going to watch porn then we should save the arguments (he tries to hide the fact he watches it) and watch it together, but when we went to watch it he acted all dumb like he didnt know what he was doing and made me feel a bit daft really. He didnt get excited or even act like he wanted to be watching it.
Any suggestions please on how i can spice things up xx

[DTCwordfan]

My first gf was like you with a massive sex drive, loved to be domme.....and older. Good for the teaching and she has a lot to answer for.....

Relax more and enjoy yourselves and let things evolve - with some creative stimulation - and in being open with each other about any interests and fetishes...

[jd_1984]

I'd love to erect a thread entitled "Funniest Adult Film Titles You Have Come Across?" but it would be taken off in a shot

[DTCwordfan]

Did you ever see Paul Merton on Whose Line is IT Anyway when they covered the subject of sheep rearing in the Orkneys. John Sessions as the Liverpool poets then Merton as a Dutch porno writer - sheep with electric melons being the theme.....hilarious.

[TTG]

Learn the 'o' skills of Silvia Saint and he will stop watching the films!

[joeluke]

Basically he's turned on by porn more than he is by you

[joko]

i suspect he acted dumb because he didnt want you to think he was an 'expert porno watcher' an think that hed only done it a few times - as hes clearkly embarrassed by it which is way he hides it.
some men see porn as sleazy filth and not to be associated with their actual real life girl because they are of course 'good girls'
its really a throwback to his upbringing - the belief that sex is dirty and wrong an he should be ashamed - some people find it hard to shake off that deeply ingrained psyche

he coudl also like really dirty stuff or weird and kinky s&m and think you will be revolted by it?

i have watched porn with my boyfriend and it felt odd and not very sexy...yet we both look at it alone...strange eh?

also some men just like Auditing...its easy, quick and doesnt require much energy effort or consideration for someone else...is he just lazy and wants a 'quick fix'?

[Andyvon]

Most men do not watch porn C! I don't watch it, nor do any other men I know. I did used to watch it - when I was about 15! Then I grew out of it all. It's like dirty magazines, you suddenly realise they are actually quite boring and stupid and you don't bother any more.

I think that's actually the key. Any man who watches things like that after his teenage years is really quite immature. I venture to suggest that is the case with your boyfriend and unfortunately for you he really does need to grow up. Please don't tar all men with that same brush of immaturity as that really is quite unfair.

[deggers316]

if its gay porn i'd call it a day

[joeluke]

' Andyvon

'Any man who watches things like that after his teenage years is really quite immature'

That made me LOL, guess I and millions of other men are immature then huh?

What do mature men like you watch then? Your collection of Gardeners World DVDs?

[ummmm]

Joe...don't forget the millions of women :-)

[DTCwordfan]

My brother in law reads Yachting Monthly for his turn on - when visiting them, I hear these moans, "She has a nice bottom...."

[jd_1984]

I am immature!!!

[joeluke]

Ooops sorry ummmm, the millions of IMMATURE men and women who watch porn

We'll all grow up someday huh?

[ummmm]

Hope not...lol

[boxtops]

Just read this thread again - confussedlady, have you considered that your chap might be plain scared about sex because you are pregnant? Really worried that being energetic and enthusiastic might harm the baby? Some guys do feel like this, you need to talk to him in case that might be contributing.

Also, as others have said, however keen people are at the beginning of a relationship, for many it does wane in frequency over a while - still good but less often!

[snags]

I'd rather eat a Greggs steak bake ;-p

[B00]

"if its gay porn i'd call it a day "

Quote of the post....fantastic! LOL