Girl advice

[JustJoe]

Not sure how to explain this so will tell it how it is.
Been single now for almost a year, recently seen a woman I like, knew nothing about her, did nothing to approach her.

The other night I was with some mates and I noticed her, she came over drunk and we chatted for a bit. She has a boyfriend and it seems a bit rocky so she says. We seemed to get on OK but then she had to go.

I don't wanna push things and get her fella after me but I'm not sure how I can go about getting to know her easily or should I give up on the chance we may bump into each other again.

What was like 2 minutes talking to her seemed like an hour in my mind, I had been drinking too.

Not sure what I should do next if anything.

[joeluke]

'ended it in their head' probably means they've wanted to end the relationship for a while but haven't had the guts to do it

[JustJoe]

Maggie, she said she lives with him so I take it that from that she has definately got a fella.

I could easily bump into her again but that would mean having to wait, I don't want her to think I'm stalking her.

Jenna, I have seen her when we have both been sober, not approached her, just noticed her around, found her nice looking, the usual stuff. Not good at approaching girls that much, especially ones I like.

Cockney, join the club mate, anyone out there know what girls think like? ( joking)

[JustJoe]

I've done the night club bit, get a bit bored of not being able to hear what they say TBH buy them a drink and then don't see them for the rest of the night or leave with the stragglers and chat in the kebab shops on the way home, they are usually jail bait or too young for me, forms of conversation goes out of their head by then.

[boxtops]

Join a club justjoe, stop looking in nightclubs or places where women are going to be drunk - you need to get to know them when they are sober, life can be very different when people are sober!

[joeluke]

Speed dating?

[JustJoe]

I like the idea of the internet dating, but I know that everyone must fiddle it somehow to be someone they are not.

There was a joke about some guy getting set up with his ideal match - someone who was a compulsive liar.

I used to like the cupid and fate adverts advertising dating sites too, they were funny.

Oh and I'm not a raging alcoholic by any means, don't go out that often at all now.
I may have had beer goggles on yes but I was still "sober" enough to understand what I suspect may have been an attempt at something good. Or maybe it's just me mis-reading it as usual.

[4getmenot]

If she is having problems with her boyfriend it is for her to sort and split up with her boyfriend, not to have you there as some excuse to spit up with him.

[joeluke]

I met my girl on the internet

There are lots of dodgy people on dating sites/chatrooms but there's also lots of people who are genuinely looking for someone

[JustJoe]

Speed dating.... I'm not sure, I can usually suss out a person within the first minute of the conversation.

On the other side of the argument I don't want to have to deal with 22 rejections in one evening... Just kidding.

[4getmenot]

how old are you? Why the sudden need to get with someone, so you have been single nearly a year, so what? Go out have fun with mates, concentrate on you and the rest will all fall into place.

[mccfluff]

oh good god lev are you trying to make me barf?

[4getmenot]

I know that, I was single 10 years, well bit of a minx but no steady relationship and longed just to snuggle up to someone in bed, I would get desperate trying to keep men because I thought I needed one to make me whole. Thats what drove them away, no one likes a desperate person, everybody loves someone who is happy in themselves :-)

[mccfluff]

not as a result of that line!

[JustJoe]

4getmenot, I'm 30, old enough to know better yes I know.
I'm in need to some affection and loving and most of all some human contact, maybe not sex as that gets me worrying. Going out with mates does not provide me with the rest of the package.

I got really hung up on a girl at the begining of this year, chatted to her, got on well with her, looked for all the signs, body language flirty stuff etc. I didn't ask her out for 3 months thinking it was best to get to know her first and when I did she had a fella.
I felt stupid she was ok with it and we can probably look back and laugh about it one day had she not moved away.