Wary?

[RainbowPrism]

Hi All, I am sort of hoping someone out there can put my mind at ease as little. I have been communicating with a gentleman 12 y/o than I am from a dating site, only over the last week, I have seen only his photo on his profile, we have exchanged email and mobile numbers, but have yet have not spoken to him nor have we met, and today he sends me a beautiful boquet of flowers ! ! Not at all sure how to react, I have thanked him, but at the same time its a bit of a grand gesure when we dont know each other.....yet alone met face to face....I was excited at first, but now Im slightly concerned, too much too soon ?

[Count-A-Strong]

Give the guy a chance. He's obviously very keen ( or desperate).

[4getmenot]

It would creep me out and also how did he get your address? I defo wouldnt give my address to someone I hadnt even spoken to

[237SJ]

Does seem a bit keen. Maybe see what he`s like when you speak to him and see what you think then. I have a male friend who has been internet dating for a while and I must admit, I can`t imagine he would go to those lengths at that stage.

[sara3]

never mind the gesture.. did you give him your address?

[zzxxee]

creepy !!!

[RainbowPrism]

I only told him where I worked, not my home address....Im not sure about him, although flattered, he seems more keen than I .....I hadnt made my mind up about him as its too early to tell, but having had flowers now, it has creeped me out a little Im afraid.

[4getmenot]

wouldnt have even said where i worked

[sara3]

he's probably watched you leave work, followed you home.......

learn a lesson from this.

[Huderon]

If you have your full name in your email address, or it is showing on the dating site, and he knows the area you live in, and you have a landline which isn't ex-directory, it wouldn't be that hard for him to get your address !

But sending flowers to you before you have even talked on the phone, let alone met ? No, I think that's going way over the top.

[rowanwitch]

If it stops at the single bouquet it might still be ok.. and he just got carried away and went all romantic...just tread very carefully...and don't worry about the age gap unless you are really young yourself..and by that I mean sub 20 ...

[Bbbananas]

I agree with rowan. It is a bit soon though - only a week. As Louis Armstrong says, he's either keen, or desperate!

[boxtops]

I would be cautious. How is your employer going to feel if he gets persistent, and turns up at your office?

[carmalee]

run for the hills - if he is presuming this much early on and has gone to the trouble of finding out your home address (which I think is a huge intrusion on you privacy) he sounds like the type of bloke who will push until he gets what he wants. A' virtual' small bunch of flowers would have been ott at this stage let alond what he did. Really, steer clear.

[RainbowPrism]

The flowers were sent to my work....I have told him I no longer want contact with him, he seemed disappointed but has agreed and also to delete my number. I sound and feel really ungrateful, but its difficult to like such a lovely gesture when you have no emotion or even know the person who sent them! Not fair....but nevertheless this has concerned me and Im following my gut instinct here, you often here of con men doing this to lure the victim into a false sense of security......Im going with caution here.