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bobjugs12 | 08:53 Wed 05th May 2010 | Relationships & Dating
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There are dozens of threads on here every week about male-on-female (MOF) violence, and this thread is in no way aimed at belittling those, but i was reading an article last night that made a lot of sense.

Essentially the article was saying that there is more female-on-male domestic (FOM) violence than the other way round. It went on to say that although the severity of the violence is less than when a man dishes it out, it's a lot more commonplace.
Generally violence commited by women is unreported and no one has any real ideas about how much takes place but from studies conducted they were saying something like 60-70% of the adult male population has had some form of violence committed by them at some point during their life by their partner. This ranges from slaps and thrown objects, to full on stabbings and being pushed down stairs.

The problem is that men don't report these attacks very often. Usually they have the social stigma of admitting they were attacked by a 'weaker, smaller' person attached, they also have the fact the no one takes it seriously, chucki in the fact that it's socially acceptable for a woman to hit a man but not vice-versa.

We've all seen the Little Mo storyline on Eastenders and the various storys and programmes devoted to FOM violence, we've all seen soaps where the man acts like a b'stard so his girlfriend/wife slaps him, when was the last time you saw mainstream tv devoted to FOM violence though?

Why is it acceptable for a woman to slap a man when he's cheated; but if the tables were turned and she was the one playing away from home, if he gave her a slap it would be domestic violence with the whole police drama attached.
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We all have a breaking point....
ZZXXEE, I wish to add to your post that whilst I aggree that male on female is worse and seems worse, I didnt retaliate because to me it is totally unnacceptable to hurt or harm a Woman for any reason not just because of how it may appear to outsiders or the law. If I had struck my wife I could never have forgiven myself, infact when I did totally lose it I punched a wall that baddly broke my hand.
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I know some women that push their blokes to breaking point. Why do women try and stop blokes from walking out?
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I meant storming off in an argument. If someone is that wound up you let them storm off. You don't try to stop them....
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If my fella storms off I let him go.
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One of my best mates gives his current girlfriend a few slaps....but God, I do understand why.
I have been in two relationships in th epast 30 years. The only physical violence was by my first wife who slapped me hard across the side of the head. It hurt and my ear rang for quite a long time.
domestic violence which ever way round it is is a big no no and if anyone condones it makes you a very sick person indeed!!!!
try being on the recieving end of a steel toe cap boot !!!!!!!!!!
or the barrel of a shotgun.
Not nice.
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We live in 'shooting' country..... I think my ex got the wrong idea. Do I look like a bloody pheasant? :-(
my god salla xxxxx
No, but you are a game bird.

Ok, i'll get me coat.
No need Boo !!!

It wasn't loaded, but I didn't know that at the time. Barsteward.... I made sure he lost his shooting licence after that. As far as I know, he never got it back. There are a lot of 'mad' farmers over here.
I think violent relationships follow people also. A few women I know who have been in violent relationships have been in more than one, I think, unfortunately some people are drawn to bullies. As for Women on Men violence, I think its a pride thing. Alot of men probably don't want to be seen as making a fuss or as weak, which is ridiculous. I personally would expect a slap back if I slapped someone - male or female! I do not condone domestic abuse and I am not a physically violent person, but if I can dish it out then I would expect to take it. I grew up in a violent home, fists and like Salla I have seen the end of a weapon or two. My mum did push my dad alot but no one deserves to be scared in there own home! As Ummmmm said - we do all have a breaking point, but thats when you should walk away. If my temper gets the better of me I storm off to cool down.
it took an ultimatum from my mum to make me see sense it builds up and you dont realise how bad it is a slap becomes a punch a punch akick a split head and lip
my mum told me it was him or my family i dont know why i was weak for so long even now i ask myself why???

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