Am i being verbally abused?

[stephanie09]

I live with my boyfriend. He is a pot head, and when he doesnt have weed, he gets very very testy and needs his space, when i ask him whats wrong, he blows up on me and we start fighting. He calls me names like looser and im acting like a baby and tells me he hates me, and I should leave him alone and i should know why he is testy. But i dont most of the time b/c i dont know its because he hasnt smoked weed. Then when he smokes he is a whole another person. Is this verbal abuse? I tell him i dont like the name calling and he tells me to get over it, he also throws little white lies out to me as well. He told me one day that he went to work, and played it off as if he did, later on that night i found out he never went. I told him please dont lie to me, he told me to get over it and i was acting like a baby. What do i do? Please feedback would be great.

Thank you.

[tattoomaster]

I went through the same with my ex g\f yes it is verbal abuse also bullying as long as hes using weed he will never change.you deserve better than that i know i did for your own sanity move on.she ended up beating the crap out of me (drink that time)posted a question on chatter bank have a look any way all the best steph hope it works out for you keep well x

[Poison-Ivy]

Get out of it now, he won't change and the more of it he smokes the worse he gonna get. no one deserves to be called names or treated badly esp by some immature pot head! he doesn't respect you now so he never will.

[cazzzz1975]

agree with poison!!, what are you doing with a pot head loser!! can you really see a future with him?

[CheekyChops]

Have to agree with the others - dump the loser!

[Jugglering]

Time for you to move on Stephanie - why should you stand for that rubbish ? With some people it's drugs, with others it's alcohol, whatever it is, there is no need for you to be on the receiving end of it - he is the one with the problem, not you ! He's the one acting stupidly and childishly because he can't have what he wants/needs. Get your stuff together asap and get out of there before he drags you further down with him. Move back with your folks or ask some good friends if you can stay with them for a bit until you get sorted out. I'd advise you to take all your possessions with you if you can, don't leave stuff behind - he doesn't seem to be too rational right now.

Let us know what happens xx

[jno]

doesn't really matter whether you're being verbally abused, does it; whatever it is, you don't like it, and nor you should. He's a liar, he calls you names, he skives off work, he changes personality when he smokes. Why exactly do you need him? And why are you worrying about what to call it? Maybe you're trying to postpone things, but it's clear from what you say that you're unhappy, that he doesn't treat you as you want to be treated. That's reason enough to start thinking of an exit strategy.

[legend759]

Ffs lose him hes a loser.Makes me sound good.Time to move on doll.Put him in the bin.

[beso]

Your boyfriend is exactly right. You should leave him alone. And never ever go back.

[R1Man]

yeah dump the dope head, he'll never amount to jack sh1t. So much for the old bob being a happy steam tug eh? Sounds like a right loser. Fancy a date?

[gravytate]

omg are you retarded? Duymp this LOSER! GOD DAMN!

[Konsai]

to be honest, if anyone ever goes out with someone hooked on any drug (apart from something like smoking).
It's always the same, similar questions being asked on yahoo answers and here...

IF they wont leave the pot, then leave them

[hotcakekimmy]

honestly, i'm not being rude,but why are u with this guy???
you only get 1 life, live it xxx

[Whoever]

Well, now you know what druggies are like. And sadly they rarely change. All that will happen over time is that your boyfriend will become more abusive and difficult to life with.
Accept the reality and move on with your life before he becomes physically abusive as well. If he lies to you as well.,imagine what life would be like if you became pregnant and were relying on him for an income and support for your child. Move out asap. Delete him from your phone and cut him out of your life before you become really damaged.

[stephanie09]

Thank you everybody for your feedback, so much has happened since. He only got worse, and this past saturday night he got so angry at me, he broke up with me and he threw me on the bed 3 times and whipped me with a sweatsirt and left bruises on my arm. Needless to say he moved out and is back home with his parents, he blamed me for everything for the past couple of weeks, made it sound like i had issues and nothing was ever his fault, so now that he is gone and out of my life, i now have to get myself on track.. once again thank you for your feedback