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legend758duo | 11:46 Thu 04th Oct 2007 | Relationships & Dating
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reading many threads there seems to be a core of users who get really annoyed by bad spelling.
now if you take this from cyberworld to the real world does that mean that those same people are just as picky and critical about the way people speak?

i honestly dont think they are or could be.
surely if you got as uppity as some folk do on here about saying yeah instead of yes , you would indeed end up either in a heated arguement at least or with a bit of aggro.

so if not in the real world then why online?

is it because its safer or because they feel superior online but in real life realise we are all the same.
no matter how we speak or spell?

we come into this life with nothing.
and we leave the same way.

it puzzles me.
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I always put yer, the only times I get annoyed on here is text talk, there was some girls on a post the other day and I could not work out what they were trying to say
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but would yuo say that to folk in real life

ive heard a lot of english on holiday saying innit and geezer that sort of east end cockneyish slang intermixed with some of the in words of the moment.

but would you correct them?
or think to yourself that it was annoying and say nothing?

if youd say nothing why not online?
surely easier to avoid or ignore ?
Actually if you speak to me in 'street' lingo in the everyday walk of life I will be judgemental and form several opinions about you based on a stereotype. These will usually change very quickly as I catch myself doing it but initally I will react to it.

I'll be the same if you speak like a chav. Again my opinion is easily changed once I realise I'm being a cow but it will be my immediate reaction.

I'm not saying I speak the queens english perfectly. I don't by any stretch of the imagination. But it really doesn't take much effort to pronounce your T's and H's. Or not for certain accents but that's a dialect thing too and a entirely different thread.

You wouldn't go in to an interview talking like a character from Eastenders now would you? First impressions count.
I dont understand the people who get worked up about spelling.
I;m sure folk wouldnt be able to speak txt talk in real life. I do hate it though when I get a call at work and the person says you done a.... no we did a ..... but I have to bite my tongue
You get what you see with me legend.

Yes i'm not great when it comes to spelling or grammer, tho i'm not bad nither.

And yes i could go to spell check prior to posting, but i choose not to.

Some people who pull you up about these i believe are bigging themselves up into making out they are super intelligent when in reality {real world} they are not. we can ''ALL'' be very clever hiding behind a computer with all such knowledge available at the press of a button, i'm not sure some on here could be face to face.
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well china its about situations.

would yuo go for a job in an eastend caff talkin all posh like and still feel you fitted in?

my point is and was .

why do people feel a superiority online but restraint in real life??

first impressions count .

but never judge a book by the cover .

after a few chap`ters then maybe .

but sometimes you gotta read most of a book until you get into it.

i find that in real life ive met many people
armed robbers ,burglars ,single mothers , gay couples ,oaps , teenage tearaways.(thats by no means all ive met only a small subsection that sprung to mind)
i tend no to judge people until ive gotten to know them.

theres always good in everyone ive met.

maybe i havent met any real bad people ???

china using you as an example if you dont mind.
your answers are different,sometimes like a blunt object to the skull,other times witty,maybe even sweet.

but i cant see you being like that offline as im sure people might object to your opinion on some things.

so is there another china that we dont see ?
You have to communicate with different people in different ways. To some extent it can be patronising to respond to someone in a terminology that is de rigueur for them but alien to you. I don�t get flustered with bad spelling on here really as I do it myself a lot and it is more often unintentional. I probably get more irritated by double paradoxes (I aint not done nuffink) or incorrect usage of standard words (your, you�re, there, their, they�re) or the inclusion of large and clever words out of context. It is not snobbish or uppity, unless you look down upon someone and berate their linguistic inferiority. Usually mistakes can be accepted as vertiginous excitement bought about by the superciliousness of wishing to answer promptly.

I also like to read and write in sentences and paragraphs. Some people may find this obtuse and verbose,indeed is often prolix in my own admission. However, people that can neither form nor articulate their phraseology either receive the red �ignore� button treatment or receive a response with no mention of their injudiciousness.
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im with you laurence.
dunno why they do it.
4get txt talk is only written slang.

times have changed and without txt talk some folk would be speechless
I would speak in the same tone, manner and voice as I speak now regardless of where I am. I'll be fine wherever I am as I rarely set out intentionally to offend. I've done it for the last 28 years and have yet to run in to a problem.

I have no idea about the online thing. Pixels rarely annoy me but when they do it's usually because of their ignorance rather than their spelling.

Of course there's a China you don't see, most people on this site have no idea what I look like. However the ones that have some idea of what I'm like off this site will more than likely agree that there is no difference. I am tactless, witty and opinionated at all times. I'm rarely sweet however.
Just to add... I never worry about 'fitting in' either.

My own drummer may march a little out of time and sync to other peoples but I'm used to it and I generally prefer my way to other peoples.

Worrying about 'fitting in' has always seemed rather silly to me. But then I've never had a problem making friends so perhaps I'm flippant about it.
I speak in life as I do on here, although you would have to contend with the Noel Cowardesque terms coming from a cockney gob. If you don�t like it, I am hardly going to be phased or wilful about it m'boy.
Most people on here don't get annoyed genuinely at poor spelling. It's often to ridicule someone when they are disagreeing with them. A typo, such as a y inserted into the middle of "it" would cause some people to use that as part of their argument and it's typos that I see mostly.

If people genuinely cant spell but are otherwise articulating a good point, then that doesn't bother me either. Common sense often gets you far further in life than great spelling.

I did date a guy/boy 5 years younger than me and he was a slave to text speak. It took me ages to figure out what he was saying, I used to have to read it aloud like I was in the slow readers group.

My favourite spelling mistakes on here is when people spell things how they speak. Spercific, machure etc etc..... I love it, gives you a lovely "ideal"(idea a la Brizzle) of the way they speak.
What a ridiculous notion that people would put a 'y' in iyt.
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octavius dont take this question any way except that which it was intended.
i loved the use of the overly long words which i did find amusing in the context they were used.

china im sure i have seen a sweet side to you .

you have a certain charm in the way you approach things and people.
i am also not too bothered about fitting in.
i am what i am.
good and bad like everyone else.
i dont profess to be anything im not.

most of my spelling mistakes if not all of them are due to fat finger too fast typing with 2 fingers syndrome .
if that made any sense at all?
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i do get amused at the use of "pacific" instaed of specific.

funny thing is the people dont actually realise when they speak that theyre using the wrong word .
I accept that posts on AB are written in haste to get a view down quickly and although mistakes etc are noticed I ignore it. I notice wrongly used words in speech but only correct my hubby (who just says 'whatever').
I will judge someone far more critically in the formal written form, mainly from a commercial organisation. I have had the most appalling letters sent to me, by people who should not be allowed to represent their companies.

This grates on me because I left an unexceptional secondary mod school properly trained to be a shorthand typist (with, as an aside, touch typing skills which draw an audience). The education system does not promote that standard of spelling and grammar now . Maybe schools have to teach so much that kids are shortchanged or perhaps they feel it doesn't matter. Where would many be without the spell checker and what howlers we will never see. The rot set in years ago when teachers began not correcting spellings in school work.
So Legend we are not all the same - education ensures that.
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surely we are all the same .
but its how or even whether we choose to make our differences obvious ?

id say that its easier to act stupid and type like a buffoon as some would call it , than it is to act intelligent and worldly wise.

in a business or officially in letters id never expect to spell in text or mis spell either.
but surely if yuo cant unwind and just type casually then youre surely constantly wound up.

not good for anyone.

there are also a lot of people with learning disabilities and with dislexia who are very intelligent but still cannot write or type everything correctly.
how bad would you feel if you discovered that the person typing or writing the letter to you was in fact dislexic?

perhaps another reason for restraint when criticising folk online for typos??
You probably meant dyslexic, or dyslexia, but as said above I ignore most indiscretions and would view it diaphanously.
You are agreeing with me Leg. Type casually here absolutely, official letters no. But you made me think about learning disabilities which makes me wonder if companies, despite more rigorous interviewing these days, are employing those with such a disability to write their letters. Surely selecting someone who, through no fault of their own, cannot produce good correspondence should not be in that job. A companies correspondence reflects the company. Far more important than a bit of bad typing and spelling on here which really shouldn't, and doesn't, bother the majority.

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