Once a cheater and always a cheater and A Leopard never changes his spots

[Crazylegs]

I reckon this is bull, has anyone heard of or been with a cheater that cheated only once and never again?
Or maybe with a spouse beater that has raised their hand but never done it twice? Just for the record I am against spousal abuse and cheating but refuse to believe that everyone that is involved in this will *re offend again* Agree? Disagree?

[joeluke]

no they don't, I'd leave em if they did

[joeluke]

jth, don't flatter yourself love, we'd never get that far

[ummmm]

So double standards then Joe....nice..

I wouldn't be too sure they didn't though. i think you're over confident.

[CuteToni]

Not a 'guess', more of an informed opinion re violent people not being able to change crazylugs.

[boxtops]

you sound a nice guy, joeluke, remind me to tell my friends not to get involved with you!

[ummmm]

He gives the good guys...and there are many...a bad name..!

[hc4361]

Too cheat for the first time is a very big thing, assuming one has morals and it is not something they would normally do. Full of guilt and remorse.
If he or she gets away with it, especially if caught and forgiven, the second time will not be such a big thing in their mind and will be more likely to do it just because they can.

[Crazylegs]

That's rubbish cute toni, I know people that have been ex Gang members, Murderers, Armed robbers etc.. and have stopped their old lives and have now become upstanding members of the community!

[ummmm]

Well some people can change and some can't.

[Crazylegs]

Ummm's the voice of reason.I wholeheartedly agree.

[joeluke]

Exactly HC, women forgive you so you do it again cos you know they'll forgive you next time.....men cheat cos they can and cos they can get away with it

[hc4361]

joeluke - I wasn't referring solely to men. Women can cheat too.

[ummmm]

Women do cheat as well....

And you're wrong Joe Luke....I would forgive many things but never ever will I forgive cheating. I have proved this in the past..

[CuteToni]

Not rubbish crazylugs, it's my opinion. Nice friends you got tho...

[joeluke]

ummm.....I'm not saying everyone forgives, just that the ones who do forgive are likely to be cheated on again

[ummmm]

They must be lacking confidence then...

[joeluke]

or they don't wanna be left on their own

[cazzz1975]

same thing, lack of self esteem, feel that a bad relationship is better than nothing.

[ummmm]

That's a concept I do not understand.

[Greedyfly]

In my personal experience and opinion once abusive, always abusive!