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Miss-Ladybug | 01:31 Fri 24th Oct 2008 | Body & Soul
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I'm 14 and a 17 year old guy that i am close to as a friend told me he thinks he is in love with me.
I am obviously not going to do anything about it, i am not stupid. But now i am worried because i have let him down.
Can someone please re-assure me? I feel guilty and worried he will be angry.
Thanks, please serious replies only.
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you are far too young to engage in a sexual relationship . Besides it is illegal and he could be charged with statutory rape. Take pride in the fact you have more respect for yourself and your body. If he is a good friend he too will respect you if not he is not worthit
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I definately wasn't talking about a sexual relationship. As i said, i am not stupid.

I just feel worried about what might happen if i bump into him etc.
But thank you ;)

why do you think you have let him down then?
At your ages, hormones are raging, and your friend'll probably feel that he's "in love" a dozen times before the real thing hits him.
Don't feel pressured into anything hun, especially an intimate relationship. You have nothing to feel guilty about. Stick with your principles, and tell your friend that you just want to remain as good friends for now.
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Thank you ice-maiden, thats what i needed to hear! haha

And Pinktwink, i felt as if i had let him down by rejecting him. Like, when he asked if i liked him back etc.

Thank you, i feel more re-assured i am doing the right thing!
You have no reason to feel guilty for being true to yourself you should be proud of yourself. If he is a good friend he will respect that
good luck
Absolutely. If this guy values you as a friend, he'll respect your feelings. Best of luck.
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tell him you're too young to be in love with someone older (which I think is true) but you like him and want to keep his friendship. No reason for you to feel guilty; he is the one who's done something, you've only responded.

Actually, as you go through life, remember that if anyone says he loves you you are never obliged to say you love him in return unless you really do. The same is true of men, of course.
You seem quite mature for your age miss lady bug.

You are right to turn him down as don't have same feelings but as others say say hopefully won't affect friendship.
Like say when you're young you're "in love" hundreds of times,but soon get over it.

I became best friends with a guy who rejected me when I was young.
I really fancied him and told him, but said sorry doesn't feel same. At first I felt embaressed but just got over it.
Then we started chatting again after then became really good friends, and actually I didn't fancy him any more after that!

He's probabaly just embaressed by it, rather than mad, so just try chatting to him as a friend again when next see him.
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Thank you everyone!
For re-assuring me and, Raggy Roman, for making me laugh although you probably did not intend to!

Glad to see there are still nice ABers out there who actually want to be kind ;)

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