Family from hell

[girlygirl2]

have the family from hell, they NEVER back me up when I need them, they are the cause of most of my sadness. Why do I even bother?
Has anyone here stopped talking to their family and how do they feel about it?
They are slowly killing me.

[dot.hawkes]

Yes I have been there , you need to remmebr that they feel they should have an input into how you live your life, that is hard to accept, but once you resign yourself to it and realise it is because they do care about you that they stick their noses in, you will start to accept that it would probably be right to listen to their advice and then weigh it up carefully before not taking it.

[4getmenot]

no one needs anyone to back them up, although it can be nice. Live as you and you only :-)

[karenevans]

I have 3 brothers and a sister. One brother was always causing trouble so I cut him out of my life completely. Best thing I ever did as I dont have to listen to his gossiping and trouble making anymore. Only do it if you can live with it though.

[girlygirl2]

Hi Dot
I'm sitting here nearly in tears at the moment, I feel so alone and I hate it.
My family (my Sister) is just vile though, she is the seemingly perfect Daughter that is always right but is just damn rude to me. You remember my post on here the other night about my Daughters nursery, well its about that, she just heard about it and had great joy in calling me a trouble maker, she said that I was evil and that this woman would loose her job because of it, to be honest Dot, I hope she does, she should not be around children. The only thing is, I walked off half way through her shouting at me so that I wouldnt say anything I would regret, but then I heard her slagging me off to my other Sister and I went mad, I totally lost it. Not physically but I went mad saying how would she of reacted if someone hadnt been feeding her children for the past year etc, I feel very sensitive about this subject anyway, I have hardly slept since Saturday night, I havent been in to work today coz of not having childcare etc. This isnt my fault but she seemed to gloat on the fact that I was miserable.

[girlygirl2]

4get, I do need people when I am vulerable though to help me through it. I feel so low at the moment, my daughters nursery has basically been neglecting my daughter and I didnt see it coming. I feel like a bad mother and totally blame myself for not listening to my own instincts weeks ago.

[girlygirl2]

Karen how did you get around family occasions, do you ever have to see him?

[whiskeysheri]

Hi, sweetie. Give me a ring/text/email anytime you like. I'm always here for you... x

[amonty1144]

I'm so sorry that you are so sad, unfortunately you can't choose your family. My hubbies mum has nothing to do with him through no fault of his own, unfortunately at special or sad times it still get's him down and he's 40. My mum died 18 months ago, it is only at that point I realised I no longer had anything in common with my family, other than my sister. I stopped phoning, calling etc, no-ones called me, I'm afraid you have to move on.
It's sad but true

[whiskeysheri]

I didn't see your post from over the weekend, hun. Hope everything's okay x

[yinyang]

For the last thirteen years my husband has spoken to nobody in his family except his sister and honestly, apart for some sorrow that his sister sometimes feels caught in the middle, he has no regrets and says cutting ties with his mum was the best choice he could have made.
Yes, I know he might regret it in years to come but you have to make decisions based on the information and feelings you have now; not what might be in 10,20..years.
Not something to be rushed into though,do be sure of what you want because I think you reach a point where you can't go back.

[rabbitygirl]

My sister fell out with our Dad many years ago. She never spoke to him again and even tho she visited Mum in the same house and saw our Dad on his death bed. She fell out with me because I made a move to get them together and she wont even say hello now.

My Mum (we have fallen out for a few months long ago but we are very OK now) said she did not know why sis and I fell out so I told her. She just said that no one thinks of her in this situation. Tough. At least she doesn't take sides.
I wouldn't mind having my sister back but I've done apologising before after months of silence and I cant be @*sed now. Stalemate. Expect the next time I have to speak with her is arranging another funeral.

[Goodsoulette]

Half my family dont talk to the other half. There is someone in my family that doesnt talk to at least 6 other members. The worst is my aunt. If its just your sister you hate, I wouldn't recommend avoiding the whole family, just avoid her. I foolishly chose a bloke over my family and it was the worst time ever.

[pixiepie]

girlygirl2 im so sorry that your having such a hard time. My mum and i fell out when i was 16 and only spoke again when i had my 1st child at 21. However nothing had changed and after much heartache i cut her out of my life. Best decision ive ever made as she was telling everyone awful things behind my back. Havent had any contact with her in 10 yrs now and im happy with that. I have my hubbys family and very very good friends round me. If a friend was to treat you the way your family were would you still be there friend ? People seem to think that just because they are family they can do and say as they please. Think carefully before you make a decision and dont take it too lightly. good luck and remember we are all here when you need us xxxx

[4getmenot]

The only people that are vulnerable are the people that rely on others too much. You don�t need it. Its your life. xx I cant say as my family are lovely, we occasionally fall out but it is never carried on.