i feel useless

[lostboy87]

my girlfriend has just had a phone call that her grandma has died.we live in yorkshire and her gran is in scottland so she cannot get there.she has just left in a taxi to her mum who lives a couple of miles away to be with her because she lives by herself.i wanted to go with her because mygirlfriend is realy upset but she said that her mum wouldnt want me there.im not going to work in the morning becoase i want to be there for her tommorow.i just feel so useless that i cannot be with her tonight.i dont know what to do,i just start crying thinking about my girlfriend.

[ELVIS68]

As long as your girlfriend knows you care that`s all you need to worry about, She`s probably better off going on her own as you could feel out of place....if you know what I mean, I`m sure your girlfriend will understand this

[daisy48]

Im so sorry about your girlfriend and her Mums loss. Please try not to feel too disheartened lostboy. I understand your concern for your girlfriend but maybe she and her mum really need to be together,just the 2 of them right now. Maybe you can phone your girlfriend just for a 5 minute chat to reassure her that you're there for her on the other end of the phone? My best wishes. Daisy x

[oldwoman]

Dont be upset you sound a very caring person. You would have felt left out if you had gone with her as they need to grieve together.

[lostboy87]

thanks you two,i spoke to her to see if she got there alright.i know its for the best that she goes on her own,just wish i could do more.

[lostboy87]

thanks oldw,i know i wouldnt be of any use i just know how she feels,i dont think you have ever felt pain untill you have lost somebody close to you.

[cherryelm]

Lostboy I was sitting here feeling sorry for myself because I was on my own and I read your question and realised my troubles were few. Your girlfriend is very lucky to have you for support when she needs it. At the moment she needs her mum but in the days to follow you will be her rock I'm sure, just be there for her. God bless.

[lostboy87]

thankyou

[Bohne]

I think it is very sweet of you to care so much.
However, tell your girlfriend you are there for her, when she needs you, there's not much more you can do at the moment.