predicament (2)

[ingram]

Add on from no one.
SORRY GUYS,forgot to say last tues they had an argument about money and she walked out of his house and took her bits with her.
shes feels very hurt as she thought he would phone her but has not been intouch.
thanks again.

[ChuffingHell]

One could think if he hasn't called, how concerned is he about her absence? However, she hasn't called him either - perhaps they're both being stubborn.

I can understand him wanting her to contribute to the bills if she moves in with him, but what she shouldn't have to do is all the cleaning up around the place.

I think she should call him, kiss and make up (if that's the way they want things to go) and then sit down to discuss some 'ground rules' before deciding whether to take the plunge and move in with him.

It's a huge adjustment for both of them; he might be okay living in a mess but she obviously isn't. These are things that need thrashing out before making this kind of committment.

[jno]

just possibly he's trying to break it off - goodness knows why as it seems he was on to a seriously good thing. Anyway, the last thing she should be doing is sitting round feeling hurt, she should be celebrating. Hasn't she got some friends she can go out with and try to erase this guy from her memory banks? There are better males out there, honest.

[Neenee]

maybe he doesnt know how to use the phone without the use of your sister...

he seems a right arse!!

tell her to go and find someone else, who would appreciate her for who she is, and not a skivvy as he obviously is treating her.

plenty more people out there!!!!

[joko]

jno may well be right - he's being behaving badly in order to get her to leave, thereby absolving himself of the blame for being the one who walked out.

it sounds like she has been so in love that she has done all but wipe his arse for him and he has now come to expect her to wait on him hand and foot, he has set himself up as 'the boss' and she has let him.

she needs to stand her ground and stay away - let him come running - and if he doesn't, then he's not worth the bother anyway

[ChuffingHell]

I don't know why everyone expects him to call. yes she could stand her ground, but if he's thinking exactly the same thing, then neither of them will and it could all end over the simple fact that they just need some straight talking and both of them were too proud to do anything about it.

of course he could be finishing it, but if he wanted her to move it, unless he's having 2nd thoughts, that might not be the case.

I would suggest she drop him a line and ask if he's having second thoughts. if he is then take it from there. and if he's not, they can thrash out what they need to, to avoid anyone being walked over like a doormat and thus live in domestic bliss.

it's a huge culture shock for both parties going from being single to co-habiting and each person has to adjust to the others habits.