Abortion

[Goodsoulette]

Could someone please advise me on whether i would be more likely to be offered a medical or surgical termintion? First appointment to say a termination is needed tomorrow, and am guessing between 5 and 6 weeks pregnant. Has anyone had a medical termination, could you please share you experience of this. I hate the idea of an operation but this sounds just as awful.

Also should I tell the father? Is it best I just dont let him know.

I know this is a hot topic but I am after good advice. If you want to bang on about pro-life please start your own anti-abortion thread. This is not something I have taken lightly at all.

[dot.hawkes]

medical

[wonderwoman1]

definately medical goodsoulette. if it were me i would tell the father but it depends on how things are between you.

hope all is ok for you

take care xxx

[boobesque]

it would more than likely be medical at such an early gestation, it is much less invasive for you and recovery is quicker. As for telling the dad, that depends on what kind of relationship you have with him, and the kind of person he is.

Good luck

[helliebobs]

I'd say medical too.

Best wishs goodsoulette!

xxx

[alijangra]

I have not had a medical termination myself but a friend of mine said it was like a heavy period with cramping, but obviously the emotional side of things is very hard. I wish you all the best.x Alison

[dot.hawkes]

it is probable that you will be given medication at the clinic and then sent home more or less immediatly, this has happened to a friend of my daughter's recently who was also in the earliest stage.

[jno]

if you think your man will stand by you, tell him. Otherwise don't. You'll have enough grief to cope with, without risking more.

[zara 4]

Sorry cant answer your question but just wanna say good luck!!!

[B00]

Ditto to what zara said

xxxxx

[joko]

i would not tell him.

it will serve no purpose and may pish him off and cause a slight issues in the future.

it will give him a weird thing to stew over but have no control, so its pointless.

[Drusilla1S]

Have a read of this site, Goodsoulette. I hope it helps. With regards to telling the prospective father, I think this would depend on the nature of your relationship and whether or not you see a future together. If not, don't give yourself more grief than necessary. It is a difficult enough time for you as it is.

http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/health_advice/facts/abortion.htm

Best wishes.

[mycats]

Up to about 9 weeks you will be offered a medical termination (the pills) but as you may need to go back into hospital afterwards to check it has worked and maybe need a D&C, I think you might be as well going for the surgical option in the first place hon, save dragging it out any longer than neccesary.
If you are no longer with the father and have made your mind up, then I wouldnt tell him, whats the point?

[mycats]

(Part two, AB playing silly ******* again)

I wouldnt think for a minute that you have gone into this lightly, but please remember that it may still be harder emotionally than you think, so we will be here for you if you need to talk. Best of luck hon, I'll be thinking of you x x

[Goodsoulette]

Thanks for all your answers. I am hoping it will be a medical one. I had a friend however who got messed around for so long that she ended up having to have a termination which involved softening and stretching her cervix at 16 weeks despite getting down the FPC on the day after her missed period.

The father situation is a complex one, my only fear is that it may cause problems in the future if he says to me why the hell didnt you tell me you were pregnant?

[mycats]

Surely he will only ask if you tell him you ever were pregnant hon?
Saying that I wouldnt like to think of you going through this alone, do you have a good friend or relative you can talk to, to go with you or anything?

[Goodsoulette]

Yeah I do. My aunt is gonna help me through it. I think you are right though, its best he never knows. We both have 2 kids each already, so I have taken this really seriously from all possible angles. Termination is the only way I can go, I just dont want to be hanging on forever.

[mycats]

I'm glad you have someone hon, and like I said we are here for you if you need to talk.
If there are 4 kids involved already you are definately doing the right things if it's not a good time/situation/ whatever, to have another one, you have to put the children you already have first! x x

[Suzyboo]

Know it is a difficult situation and that you haven't taken this lightly but I do feel that if you are planning on continuing in a relationship with the father then he deserves to know the truth

[loopyc]

be thinking of you sweetheart x

[Goodsoulette]

thanks loopy xx