Pre-marital sex

[rico35]

Does anyone feel concerned about the prevalence of premarital sex as I do?

I was engaged to my wife (then my fiancee) for about 4 years and we did not have sex until our wedding night, during our honeymoon. It was the first time for us both and it was very memorable.

I know in this day and age, it is almost a taboo to talk about saving sex for marriage, but I strongly believe it is still a good old fashion way of respecting our bodies and staying faithful

[dancealot13]

I waited to have sex till I was 19. In my hometown that is considered a long time (if you can believe it). I lost my viginity with my boyfriend and we've been together for 5 years. So Im 24 now. But, we did break up a few times and I didn't set the same rule for myself once I was single. Now that we are back together I regret sleeping with men when we were apart. As fun as it all seemed at the time, I didn't gain anything from it (except a few tricks), it didn't leave me feeling more fullfilled, more confident or any sexier. It was just wild sex. Even though some of my "other" experiences in bed may have been a bit more energetic then with my bf, that doesn't effect my love or attraction to him at all. And it doesn't make me worried that our relationship won't last. You can always make your sex life better, if you have good communication.

My cousin, who is a very attractive Italian male. was at a bar several years ago, when a fight broke out. Someone shot a gun but hit my cousin, and the bullet instantly paraliysed him from the waist down. This was 3 months before his wedding.

Now my cousin has been happily married to that women for 23 years. They can't ever have sex, and were not able to have children at all. They adopted a baby from china, she is now 8. I think of them whenever I hear people talking about the importance of sex.

[hammerman]

You're a long time dead....take every opportunity you can, live life to the full and enjoy every moment....and that includes sex before marriage.

[gessoo]

Although important, sex is not the most important thing in marriage - far from it. By 'saving yourself' until marriage it would seem to indicate that sex is the main reason for getting married.

[RebeccaSJ]

I was raised to save myself for marriage, but I just couldn't do it. Part of me wishes I had, but part of me wishes I had started earlier. (I was 25.)

[Rebecca_SJ]

I was 25. It was my birthday. I'd been seeing my boyfriend for about a year. I didn't start out intending to have sex, but I must admit that I had thought about it. I had wanted him for a while, but I was raised to wait for marriage. Still, on this particular day my desire for him was especially strong.

My boyfriend said he had a very special birthday present for me, so we went to his house. There he carried out a well executed seduction. I was more than a bit reluctant, but I was in love with him, so eventually his gentle persistence won me over. He was kind, sweet, romantic, gentle, and persistent and respectful of my feelings and eventually my resistance fell away. I couldn't resist anymore.

He had mentioned to me a few times that he had an urge to make love to me, but that he respected my feelings enough not to pursue it. I had felt the urge too, but I had always managed not to succumb to it. Somehow, this day felt different, though I didn't realize why.

He started to make small, subtle advances and I barely noticed. Or maybe I didn't want to notice. The wet kisses passed unnoticed. He mentioned again that he had been thinking a lot about making love to me lately. Gradually, the advances got more direct and forward.

Somewhere along the line, I started to say no and it came out OK. That's when I knew it was time. I was surprised, but I knew I was ready, due to his persistence. So I gave in. I was scared, nervous, uncomfortable, but exhilarated, happy, excited, and curious. I actually found myself looking forward to it. I was overwhelmed by the sheer pleasure and the romantic moment.

I sent him out of the room, then I stripped my way up the stairs, leaving a boot at the foot of the stairs, another boot a couple of steps up, my dress a couple of steps after that, my pantyhose a step up from there, my bra at the top of the stairs, and my panties hanging on the doorknob of the bedroom.

I waited completely naked on the bed, wrapped in a sheet. He quickly stripped down to his undies and climbed on the bed next to me. I was tingling. After a little foreplay, I took his underpants off. Then we curled up and gave each other oral simultaneously. We did that for about half an hour.

Then I rolled over on my back and he went inside. We had intercourse for quite a long time. He was very good, and he told me he enjoyed it too. I had two or three orgasms and he came too. It was excellent! He was very good! It was passionate and romantic, about as good as a girl's first time can be.

Afterwards, I felt a mix of emotions: sadness, exhilaration, excitement, disappointment, deep romance, nervousness, peace, a bit of regret, but also happiness, satisfaction, and a myriad of other feelings. It was all something of a jumble.

It was a wonderful first experience, very romantic and tender. He was patient and he was very good. I felt like part of me had just died, but I also felt like I had just started an exciting new adventure, one I would enjoy many times afterwards. What a great birthday present!

[Rebecca_SJ]

Well, I've been with 5 guys, so I can't condemn others.

[RebeccaSJ]

I am part of that trend. I enjoyed quite a bit of sex before I got married. I've had 5 differnt men.

[RebeccaSJ]

I wasn't able to wait, and after my first time I was sure I really didn't want to. I enjoy sex a lot.

[fiction-factory]

Yes, you've given us all the details a few times over the years Rebecca if you look up. I suspect rico no longer looks at the answeres though as 11 years have passed since he asked.