We've finally deciced ( nearly three years later!!) that scatter (boo hiss on my account!) and plant a tree in the cemetary..will this involve clergy/costs. should we wait till dad popps his cloggs... and have a 2 for 1 offer (not disrecptable.. just practical)..
You need to check whether they allow the scattering of ashes in the cemetary. Some don't. We discovered this when we wanted to scatter my M-I-L. However, there are ways round it.......
You're supposed to have the lanowners permission to scatter ashes and I doubt if the cemetery will allow a tree, I would go with masma, sounds like the best solution.