I've met a guy who I should finish the relationship with

inamuddle1 | 18:46 Wed 19th Sep 2012 | Body & Soul

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Hello. I know the answer to this question but I dont like it or want to do it.

I met a man, 1 1/2 years ago in a nightclub, he came up to me and we swapped facebooks. We started meeting, having sex. He told me he had a child of 7 years and an ex partner. I was find with it. He lives in the same country but a different city so we see each other every 2 months or so... I've fallen for this guy! I send him 20 text messages a day. Sometimes he replies and sometimes he doesnt. Recently he told me that his ex partner wants something with him again and that he thinks he can really make things work this time. Obviously i was dissapointed so I told him to never call or text me again. Immediatly he replied saying he would call me the next time he was in my city. We started again, flirting and he explained that he was in a situation with his ex, who now i think is not an ex... The last thing i want to do is get in the way of a family!!!! But i love this guy. I dont think he realises my feelings for him, its been 1 1/2 years now!!! We have amazing sex, but at the end of the day, it is just a sex relationship, and i'm bound to get hurt! But i'm young. I dont mind. He wants to go to swing clubs, i've never been before and am interested... Anyway, he sent me a message saying that I was his best, his sex partner and friend in sexual adventures and to be honest it made me happy. I dont know if i want more than this, i dont think i want him as a boyfriend, but im happy to have him as a sex partner... But obviously i have some feelings for him. I send him 20 messages a day. So anyway, he has not spoke to me for 2 days, he is ignoring my messages now. I dont know what he wants. I cant sleep at night thinking about him. My friends are all sick of hearing about him, and tell me that he's a dog!!! Which im sure he is, but i like him, suppose I cant even say he's my dog... he might be someone elses dog... OMG... I'm such an idiot for getting involved with this, this man i dont want to say good bye to, but feel i need to. He gives me excitement that I lack. But then when he doesnt respond to my messages I get so sad. We have spent 4 days messaging each other constant, and now nothing. I'm confused. Is he just fed up with the messages? Is it over? I dont know what to do. I'm totally addicted to this man. Excuse the spell errors,, I was typing this fast to get everything out... it's really bothering me. Of course I cant expect someone to message me every day, why do i need so much re-assurance... he's already said we are sex partners, already said he likes me... already said he has an ex partner that wants to get back together with him,,, i feel like sending him an email telling him that while he is seeing me, his relationship with his partner will never work. I know I'm going to get some stinking messages back for writing this, I need some sense spoke to me... I dont know his family, I expect I never will.. Should i message him and tell him its over. What will give me my dignity back? I've messed up, and I seem to have messed my head up too. I really like this guy!!! Please dont be too harsh on me... I'm 30 years old and I'm just looking for fun and adventure!!! Thanks

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Brinjal

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Have fun but don't limit yourself to meeting someone who maybe more permanent if that is what you want.

19:33 Wed 19th Sep 2012

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mrs_overall

Gness, as the resident expert I have to ask - is it possible to drink Guinness whilst playing the accordian?

Sqad

gness........does it involve using my moistened lips and sipping...?? and then appreciating the smoothness of the froth?

queenofmean

Been here, done that, MOVE ON and get over it!!

Infomaniac

I am delighted we were able to help you come to a decision.

gness

Something along those lines Sqad.....x

Mrs O! Will you button it with the accordion! I was young....ish.

ttfn

Sqad, much more of that and I will start telling owl jokes!

mrs_o - no thankee, I only drink coffee, tea is strictly for Sunday afternoon at 1600 hrs.

I am not educating anyone to drink Courvoisier, btw ;)

DaisyNonna

30? OLd enough to be resposible for your own decisions. Good or bad. Your problem, obviously you have no intentions of taking any advice so I will offer none.

inamuddle1

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A decision... seems to be the same decision I've always had. Why do I feel so weird about it though... Is it wrong to text someone 20 times a day... tomorrow i text him nothing. Nothing at all. OMG its so hard to do that...