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Soulmate who lets you down
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.I'll give you the same answer as a trusted friend gave to me when I was in a similar situation.
Tell your 'shared' friend to say that "Dom says hello, hopes you are well and that it would be nice to catch up sometime" Pass on a contact number & then leave it all up to her.
In my case, however the 'soulmate' let me down yet again. Hope you have better luck.
She must have had a reason for acting like she did, even if you don't know it, if she didn't tell you the reason then she wasn't that good a friend in the first place as what she did would hurt anyone. You will never trust her fully again so it is better that you don't try to force the issue of making contact with her again as it isn't going to bring anything fantastic to your life. If it happens it happens but get on with the life you have now, you are the decent person in all this so she should be the one building the bridges and if she doesn't want to then you are better off without her.
I vote "no" on re-establishing contact. I think you will feel better in the long run having kept your dignity by not letting her know that you even still care! She was not a good friend to you and there are much better out there. You deserve better than what she did to you, and whatever mean things she might say or do to you in the future, should you try to rekindle the relationship. I agree that life is too short to hold grudges, but that doesn't mean you have to tell her out loud that she's forgiven. Just let the grudge go in your own mind, without letting her know about it. Forget about her and move on, you will be so much happier!! Don't even give her the power to hurt your feelings; don't give her any power over you-- she is nonexistent now, as far as you're concerened. Don't waste any of your energy thinking about her. It will be better "revenge" to let her wonder "whatever happened to" you, and never get the answer to that question, and to let her worry that maybe your life is a thousand times better without her (which it is!). She doesn't exist, now concentrate on making your own life better by doing things that are fun to you and beneficial to you.
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