'They' Is Irritating Me Immensely
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Mummy tummy
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Following on from legend's Q, I have what Mr Boo calls a "mummy tummy", which roughly translates to a (small!) spare tyre with stretch marks on it.
Now I detest this part of me and really hate it when he touches it, however he reckons he loves it as its part of me and it's only there as i've given birth to his baby yada yada yada....
Now my Q is, is he talking complete and utter rubbish? Do ya reckon he probably thinks it's gross as well but it's here to stay so he might as well accept type it of thing? Or could he genuinely believe the flannel he tells me?
Now I detest this part of me and really hate it when he touches it, however he reckons he loves it as its part of me and it's only there as i've given birth to his baby yada yada yada....
Now my Q is, is he talking complete and utter rubbish? Do ya reckon he probably thinks it's gross as well but it's here to stay so he might as well accept type it of thing? Or could he genuinely believe the flannel he tells me?
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Well if it is pretence, I doubt he could keep it up for long (the pretence I mean).
Consider if you will, a classic car that you might own. It may have seen a few years and run a few miles, it may have some rust and dents and a few scratches here and there, but you love it. You cherish it, look after it, stare at it adoringly and smile when the sun catches its features and realise what a lucky person you are to have that little treasure. And it's all yours.
I am not saying that you are an old banger or anything, but real men appreciate the finer things in life, and often these are the women they love in all their historic glory, without the need for a modern sporty little number just for weekends. You can get just as much pleasure and enjoyment out of an old classic and often this is all we need.
I suspect he just likes it because it is you.
Consider if you will, a classic car that you might own. It may have seen a few years and run a few miles, it may have some rust and dents and a few scratches here and there, but you love it. You cherish it, look after it, stare at it adoringly and smile when the sun catches its features and realise what a lucky person you are to have that little treasure. And it's all yours.
I am not saying that you are an old banger or anything, but real men appreciate the finer things in life, and often these are the women they love in all their historic glory, without the need for a modern sporty little number just for weekends. You can get just as much pleasure and enjoyment out of an old classic and often this is all we need.
I suspect he just likes it because it is you.
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I have one too and I loath , hate and detest it. This single part of my body has been enough to change my views on cosmetic surgery. I used to think people would have to incredibly vain and selfish to even consider surgery that wasn't medically necessary but now I would seriously consider it.
Having said that, my husband is the same as yours and I think they do mean what they say. We've been together for fourteen years and have both changed a hell of a lot in that time but I don't notice it because I see him every day and when I look at him I only see my best friend and husband. Our relationship is stronger than wobbly tums or thinning hair.
( would still love to get rid of the wobbly bit, though :) )
Having said that, my husband is the same as yours and I think they do mean what they say. We've been together for fourteen years and have both changed a hell of a lot in that time but I don't notice it because I see him every day and when I look at him I only see my best friend and husband. Our relationship is stronger than wobbly tums or thinning hair.
( would still love to get rid of the wobbly bit, though :) )
Thanks yingyang- woman after my own heart....lol
I know exactly how you feel, it's weird isnt it? I know what everyone is saying is probably true and that Mr Boo more than likely diesn't care about it, but it really doesn't stop you/me from hating it. Especially in summer when it limits what you can wear! Hipster jeans? Hah forget it :-(
I know exactly how you feel, it's weird isnt it? I know what everyone is saying is probably true and that Mr Boo more than likely diesn't care about it, but it really doesn't stop you/me from hating it. Especially in summer when it limits what you can wear! Hipster jeans? Hah forget it :-(
The thing is , no matter how much he says it doesn't bother him - it bothers me! As you said, it can affect what you wear which is another blow to the ego and it can be off putting during a intimate moment if I suddenly start to wonder if I look like Homer Simpson on a treadmill,
To find true inner peace we must learn to love our wobbly tums. I shall start a support group!
To find true inner peace we must learn to love our wobbly tums. I shall start a support group!
If anybody on AB has a perfect body, they are extremely lucky!!
BOO, if Mr BOO says he loves your mummy tummy, then he probably does!! learn to love it yourself, if you cant love it, allow Mr BOO the opportunity to love it enough for both of you!!
Remember, love starts on the inside!! if you are loved on the inside, you will almost certainly be loved on the outside, that includes wobbly bits as well!!
Mr BOO probably finds it a little hurtful that you cant accept his opinion, love it yourself and let Mr BOO full access to all wobbly bits!! and allow him to enjoy it and enjoy it yourself!!!!
BOO, if Mr BOO says he loves your mummy tummy, then he probably does!! learn to love it yourself, if you cant love it, allow Mr BOO the opportunity to love it enough for both of you!!
Remember, love starts on the inside!! if you are loved on the inside, you will almost certainly be loved on the outside, that includes wobbly bits as well!!
Mr BOO probably finds it a little hurtful that you cant accept his opinion, love it yourself and let Mr BOO full access to all wobbly bits!! and allow him to enjoy it and enjoy it yourself!!!!
Oh God, don't even get me started BOO!!! I've never even had kids, but for as long as I've known I've been conscious of my 'belly'. Even when I was 21 years of a age and a very slender size 10 I was convinced I had a bit of a paunch. Boyfriends have never understood it. As I've gotten older I find I fluctuate (though not quickly) between a size 10 and a size 12, and I realise now that I will always have hang-ups about my body. It's just the way us women are!
I just think we have to try as much as possible to accept any little flaws we may have. I certainly have plenty; physical and of character!! I was involved in a bad car accident at the age of 8 and have scars on my face to prove it. But amazingly I don't mind those scars. I'm still obsessed about boobs & belly! Hahaha!
By the way, I think men get just as hung up on certain issues too.
I just think we have to try as much as possible to accept any little flaws we may have. I certainly have plenty; physical and of character!! I was involved in a bad car accident at the age of 8 and have scars on my face to prove it. But amazingly I don't mind those scars. I'm still obsessed about boobs & belly! Hahaha!
By the way, I think men get just as hung up on certain issues too.
