Arrrghhhhhhhhh.....

[queenofmean]

....why the f*** do spanners always find there way into the works

[lcg]

life.....just when you think it's ok....something bites x

[queenofmean]

you aren't kidding....my original issue now is as problematic as it was about 12 hours ago when i thought I was making progress x

[lcg]

wassup? x

[tonyav]

Whats the prob, qom ?.

[murraymints]

know that feeling....hope it gets better for you real soon...away for the weekend Tone...be home Sun night..be good ...you never know who is watching !!!

[queenofmean]

if nungate reads this she will probably kill me or something.

A lad who i was talking to we went on a date went well etc but I felt I wasn't ready to give up having a bit of freedom, but there was someone else and he said its ok we'll just be mates and if you want to you can see this other lad....fast forward to 20mins ago...and my ex sent me an email apologising for the huge c*** up. I decided to take the chance to tell him how i feel and that I still miss him and everything which I do. But now I'm back at square one and I dunno what to do

[Zacs-Master]

Aaaah shaddap.

[tonyav]

Where you of to minty ?.

[lcg]

well.....do you want to go backwards....or forwards? the choice is clear. do not for one minute think your ex will change, people generally don't. i assume there is a reason he is an ex? x

[tonyav]

Oh gawd, qom, young love hey. i think you may be right about nungate lol.

[lcg]

that's what mothers are for.....tough love as well as the cuddles x

[queenofmean]

I'm not sure, I really right now would gladly do a run and jump and avoid it all. I'm always going to have feelings for him. I left him because at the time I couldn't handle sometimes not being able to be in communication with him (he's in the navy)

[murraymints]

up to mum's Tone..my bro is coming over from Dumfries too..sis only has another week before going back to Singapore ..so at least we can all have a day together...

[queenofmean]

nungate doesn't really do cuddles...thats what my piglet toy is for or the pillow :(

[tonyav]

Make the most of it then minty, and make sure that you enjoy yourself. x

[tonyav]

Hey qom, what about these semi dates, anything come of them ?.

[murraymints]

Thanks Tone..later !!xx♥♥

[lcg]

well....i can give you cyber cuddles, qom. you have to decide what it is you really want (easy to say, i know). being a forces wife/partner is a hard life. that will dominate your relationship - not you, him or children. if you can't handle it, walk away and with your head held high.....you cannot dither for ever about the choices you make, but you will always look back at periods of your life with what if's or regrets. i deeply regret not pursuing a relationship with my best friend's brother 20 years ago; yet i am (mostly) happily married to mr kicker. 8 yrs ago we seperated and by chance this bloke was divorcing his wife. i could have dived right in.....but i chose not to as i had a very, very careful think about the fantasy vs. the reality of what would happen. you have to think with your head, your heart and your common sense. if you miss out any of these approaches....you will make a mistake. whatever....we are always here for you, qom x xx

[jno]

is he coming out of the navy? If not then your problem isn't going to change. Long-distance relationships are always awkward, and there's no shame in deciding you're not cut out for it

[queenofmean]

thanks lcg i shall keep it in mind. It is a really tough choice to make.
Jno he's not leaving the navy. I felt so proud when we were together because of what he was doing. Sounds crazy i know. I'm not asking him to change, I know that his job is a priority and that our safety comes first and that he cannot always be in contact. I've spent many nights crying because I know deep down I should really have toughed it out and stayed with him. Looks like i have a lot of thinking a head of me xx