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Is Being A Top In A Bdsm Relationship Really About Empowerment?
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Just thinking about this, a friend used to say she liked being dominant as she was able to work through a lot of bad stuff from her life She wouldn't switch roles because of early abuse but did say she enjoyed the responsibility for her partner. He used to say it was all about freedom, when you are completely disempowered in a safe space it is the nearest thing to total freedom. For me it was just a bit of a laugh between consenting adults. What do others think
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I'm slightly weird in that outside of the bedroom I am very assertive and confident and definitely not submissive to anyone, however in the bedroom I like a man to be dominant and sexually assertive, but only in contrast to extreme gentleness otherwise it's just a violence fest and in no way sensual, there HAS to be for me a contrast. That being said they have to...
14:55 Wed 29th Aug 2018
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Some people enjoy those things, and other people don't. As long as it involves consenting adults, though, then it's better not to be judgemental -- especially not in a thread that was, after all, meant to take the topic seriously.
For the record, I don't enjoy choke-related sex, or rape fantasies, and am not really into BDSM myself, or at least not the S&M-related aspects of it. But I'm not snobbish enough to judge others who are.
For the record, I don't enjoy choke-related sex, or rape fantasies, and am not really into BDSM myself, or at least not the S&M-related aspects of it. But I'm not snobbish enough to judge others who are.
No you're quite right Mamya there is no need to leave over this, but it isn't over this, this is just the latest in a string of chasing me (and others) around the site so that I have to be careful what I say, what I post about. I am made to feel as though, despite having been a member for 6 1/2 years, I somehow shouldn't be here with my life, my opinions and my experiences. I had some really lovely news recently, in fact two pieces of lovely news, and there are a lot of people here who are very nice I would have loved to have shared that with and then there are the others, and the certainty in my mind of how that news would be received by them stopped me posting it because I didn't want it to be tainted and spoken of snidely or nastily and spoiled, just as if I'm having a bad time I wouldn't post here either for precisely the same reasons.
I'm not jetlagged, I'm irritated. We were having a discussion as adults do, we weren't getting off on it ( another insult I see) and Anne you stirred and started this and had a pop at me the other day as well. Have you really nothing better to do?
I'm not jetlagged, I'm irritated. We were having a discussion as adults do, we weren't getting off on it ( another insult I see) and Anne you stirred and started this and had a pop at me the other day as well. Have you really nothing better to do?
Kval....two things.......one is that most of the insults have come from folk who rarely, if at all, have a conversation here......never start anything interesting....or after making a point or two enter into a childish argument with another member that goes on and on.....best just ignore it......
The other is......I still have no idea about your good news and now there are two pieces of good news!!! I could sulk I suppose.... ;-)
The other is......I still have no idea about your good news and now there are two pieces of good news!!! I could sulk I suppose.... ;-)
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