Sad News

[queenofmean]

Hi Everyone

I’ve spoken to Tinks and she has asked if I could let you know.

It is with a heavy heart that I need to let you know that Baby Tinks has sadly gained their Angel wings.

We are all thinking of Mr and Mrs Tinks and all the family at this sad time.

[kvalidir]

Tinks, I'm so sad for you. I had a spontaneous miscarriage recently at 14 weeks 3 days and lost our surprise but much wanted babies (because I was high risk I had decided to never have children, and after this happening certainly now won't have any).
Everyone was very kind and what happened to me was very quick comparitively as Bednobs said, but in itself it was not as much of an ordeal as I probably would have imagined it being physically at least and as I said everyone was very kind, so hopefully you will find it likewise. I can't imagine what you're going through knowing this is something you have to do in a couple of days, I was lucky not to have to do that, and the sadness must be overwhelming. Accept all the love people want to give you, and for us we wanted to mark their existence so they have a little patch in my garden and their Dad made them little markers which I've brought back with me. Do whatever you feel right afterwards, there's no right or wrong way to grieve or do this, be sad, get angry, whatever is right for you and your family, and once again I could not be sorrier for what you're going through. xxx

[bednobs]

I'm sure your midwife informed you but in case they didn't you might not get any ashes from a cremation because of the size

[rowanwitch]

Good point , hopefully though you will have other little things to hold on to.

[ummmm]

Kval - very sorry to you too xx I hope you'll be OK.

[tinkerbell23]

She just said OK and gave me a big hug. She knows if she thinks of any questions she can ask and I told her im really really sad & will be for a while.

I had made cards on moonpig from the baby to her & mr tinks & my parents which will arrive tomorrow :0(

They didnt actually say that there wont be ashes. Not sure how I feel as stupidly I was shocked when I realised there was something to “give me back”..... i mean when i think its obvious but this is all new to me!!

Thank you so much for sharing your story, I too am here for you if you wish to talk.

I always wanted to be a Mum but was never finding the right time, so we just went with the flow and this happend and I was shocked but so delighted.

Ive now learned that the time is right and i do want to have a baby.... but yes this is so offputting xxx

[tinkerbell23]

..... and Bednobs thanks for the honestly.

Im a straight talking kinda fairy.... i appreciate that xx

[kvalidir]

Thanks Ummm, yeah I was raging like a lunatic at the time absolutely devastated, our Gynae said up to 12 weeks was the really dodgy time but considering I have ills it had been text book perfect til then so we'd just let ourselves believe it might all be fine and then suddenly it really wasn't. These things happen and I'm okay now but I am so sorry for Tinks, to know is a different thing than it just suddenly happening xxx

[kvalidir]

I told them I was taking ours home to arrange things myself and they were fine with that and then just did my own thing and they are in the garden, since I'm not likely to sell the house it seemed a nice place to be. x

[tinkerbell23]

I wont be moving.

Good excuse to be allowed a fairy garden which hubby might have declined before ;0>

Just lying here..... typing, thinking, wondering if its happening....... I wish this didnt have to happen, but I really really just wish it could have a few weeks back rather than this :0(

Thank you all for sharing stories & supporting. Its a comfort xx

[ummmm]

It will get easier. xxx

[tinkerbell23]

Surgery isnt an option.

Delivery it is at 10am

:0(

Xx

[tonyav]

Best of luck, tinks x

[ummmm]

Good luck Tinks xx

[gness]

Much love and hugs, Tinks..... Gx

[Mamyalynne]

Thinking of you sweetheart and Mr Tinks too ♥

[pastafreak]

Will be thinking of you, Tinks. xx

[Lie-in King]

My thoughts are with you both x

[tinkerbell23]

Thank you xxxx

[kvalidir]

Thinking of you Tinks xxx

[waterboatman]

So sad. My condolences to the family.