Have You Ever

[phleb]

felt inadequate, stupid and a spare part. I do.

[bookbinder]

Nope. Can't say that I have.

[sherrardk]

Hi phleb, haven't seen you for ages. How's things (I'm guessing they're not good given your op).

[nailit]

why do you feel like that phleb?

[rockyracoon]

I have, I put it down to motherhood.

[Zacs-Master]

Only when I auditioned for a porn movie. Never again.

[pixie373]

Each of them on the odd occasion. But if there was a certain person making me feel that way regularly, i would consider not being around them.
are you ok?x

[phleb]

Things are good, my Polly is beautiful. My other two are thriving. Pain in the backside hubby is also surprisingly behaving. Its my family now that are getting me down. How are you? x

[sherrardk]

I'm fab thanks, not long back from a lovely holiday. I don't have any family as such and as awful as it sounds, since my mother died it's like a weight has been lifted. Unfortunately, you can't choose your family. Great to hear that the kids are doing well and that your husband is not being a pain, x

[phleb]

Would it be a bad thing if i just kept away from my side of the family i.e brothers and sisters, they are so mean to me. I am always expected to drop everything to do stuff for them, and when i say no, they make comments, talk behind my back!!! not realising i have 3 children to look after, and when things are going fine for me, they start making me choose between my family and them in an indirect kind of way. I'm fed up.

Its like they want me to be somewhere, and i say i cant as Polly doesn't like staying with anyone, they say oh yeah we understand, but then behind my back they *** me off saying oh look at her playing happy families etc etc

[anneasquith]

im so glad you called her polly, lovely name. it would appear the most important people in your life are well, that's the important thing........

[sherrardk]

Personally, I would do what made me and my immediate family happy - life's too short to make yourself miserable trying to please others (but I am probably a selfish cow) and, as I said, I don't really have family.

[phleb]

i have three happy children, four if you include the hubby. Yeah she is Polly and gorgeous. I call her the answerbank baby, because all i did is talk about her on here, and most of you saw her scan.

[DTCwordfan]

It tyres me out, phleb.....

[pixie373]

Phleb, if the children, you and hubby are happy and well, let the others get on with it xx

[boxtops]

Phleb, you do what is right for you. You can't be a doormat for the rest of your family - your own children and husband (and you) come first, you're not everyone else's priority.

No, there is no problem in distancing yourself, you're not at their beck and call, you're a grown positive woman with a family of your own to consider. Tell them to go whistle - if they don't like it, it's their problem, not yours.

[ummmm]

Don't let anyone make you unhappy. You have one life, don't waste it.

If my family made me feel like that I'd walk away from them.

Have you got good friends?

[phleb]

one of siblings live with my mum, so hard to avoid, and i have to visit mum. When all the siblings are arguing amongst themselves and i visit mum, because one of them lives there, im accused of taking sides, just by going to mums!!

[phleb]

I have a few good friends. x

[pixie373]

Can she come to yours?

[boxtops]

The rest of your family comment that you're "playing happy families"? Sounds a bit like envy to me, phleb. You enjoy your family, you do what's right for them. The others don't matter - honest.