who gets the name?

[gigi6737]

im new at this so i hope that my question is clear enough for everyone to respond to. i am about to have my first child with my boyfriend. we are not married,but i would like to give our child his last name. does anyone know either what virginia law says about the matter or who i should talk to? the due date is comming up fast! thanx:)

[nobjob]

theres no problem with you doing this but both you and the babys father have to be there when you are registering the birth because you aren,t married.

congrats !

[B00]

Did you say Virginia law? As in the America?

[Lou Knee]

whatever country you are in, in my view, if the father of your baby cannot or will not give YOU his name....i.e. make a commitment to you and marry you.....then why on earth would you allow your child to have HIS name...a child is a life long commitment.......if he cannot commit to you, what makes you think he will commit to this child........

*the above is a personal view and other views are available*

[scoobydooby]

Wow.....that's a very sexist view. How do you know that she wants to marry him? Perhaps she's fallen pregnant without having planned it and has decided the commitment of a baby is quite enough for now.

[Lou Knee]

scoobydooby........this comment is prob best asked of the questioner but if she does not want to marry him then why on earth is she having a child with him? In my way of thinking the two should always go together.

pardon me if that sounds old fashioned........but i do not see anything wrong with being old fashioned

[Lou Knee]

PS.......in my original reply I DID state that other opinions are available!!