Feeling Down

[maggiebee]

Have fallen out with my son. My birthday, as many of you know and sent wishes, was on Saturday. Had flowers delivered from son but not a card from him, his wife or my grandchildren. Really hurt so phoned and told him. Afraid I probably said more than was necessary and don't feel better for it. Hate this time of year!
My wee Debbie died 41 years ago today aged only 5 and it is as raw today as it was then. Think I'll go back to bed and hide!

[rockyracoon]

Poor you Maggie :(

Sending hugs x

[andy-hughes]

Hi maggie

I am so sorry to hear that you have fallen out with your son.

No doubt your thoughts about Debbie have influenced the way you felt and feel, and may have sharpened your tongue more than you intended.

Why not call back today, apologise for going a bit OTT, but remind him that your point was a fair one.

Also include the fact that your are still mourning the moss of your daughter - and will be for ever, and hopes he can be understanding at this difficult time.

I hope your birthday gets better once you have got this niggle out of the way.

[lady-janine]

maggie - hugs for you ((((((()))))))

advice from andy sounds good to me. probably difficult to do but still sounds good. hope you find a way out of this difficulty.

[queenofmean]

Thinking of you Maggie massive cuddles

Queenie xxx

[Sqad]

maggie

\\\ Really hurt so phoned and told him. Afraid I probably said more than was necessary and don't feel better for it. \\\

You assessed the situation, reviewed the facts and formulated your reply based on your feelings.

Excellent.......don't back down.

[lady-janine]

stirrer.

[Sqad]

Nonsense.....;-)

[lady-janine]

caps and fitting sqad.

[Old_Geezer]

If you feel you didn't get it right then do the adult thing and make the first move at reconciliation. Give him a call, explain you felt hurt about the card, but feel you may have over-reacted, and apologise; and he'll, most likely, say sorry in return and it’ll put one part of what's getting you down behind you anyway. The other, well I guess that's an annual sadness for you. Try to keep busy; it'll give you less time to feel down today. I suspect feeling down from one issue didn't help you react well when something else made you feel unappreciated.

[marval]

I am sorry you are down today, you will always have thoughts of Debbie. Have a few minutes to yourself, then maybe talk to your son and explain.

Take care of yourself though.xx

[maggiebee]

Thanks for your responses. Off to put down a Christmas wreath and have a wee greet. May phone or txt son later.

[berniecuddles]

giving you a big cuddle bless ya xx

[boxtops]

I agree with andy - it's a difficult time for you. They DID sent flowers, so it's not as if they forgot....

[murraymints]

You need to clear the air before long or it will spoil Xmas too....sounds like flowers were sent as they'd genuinely forgotten ...but they DID send flowers ! I've forgot people in the past as I've been distracted by things, as they might well have been by xmas, and sent instant flowers. You will be über sensitive because of debbie' s anniversary....a wee phone call to thank them for the flowers and" I'm sorry I ranted I'm just a bit teary at the moment" should do it !

Thinking of you at this sad time xx

[2sp_]

I'm sorry to hear that you had an argument with your son. Especially on your birthday and the anniversary of the loss of your daughter.

It really can't be an easy time for you, but I suppose you never really get over the loss of a child.

Call your son, explain that you will always mourn Debbie and that you do appreciate the flowers.

We all can say too much when we are hurt, give yourself a break. I have a wee tear in my eye for you.

(hugs)

[cupid04]

Thinking of you Maggie. xx. (((HUGS)))

[Mamyalynne]

Oh Maggie, when we are at a low ebb it is often the smallest things that hurt, a card may be only paper but the message it conveys is great and requires thought.

Have your quiet time, a weep and then think how to go from there, fully understand your reaction.

Take care. ♥

[Ann]

Just read this and your update - thinking of you maggie and sending my love. x