Marriage Or No Marriage, Which Is Better?

[oneinam]

No financial answers pls. Please suggests the advantages and positives of marriage vs living together.

[albaqwerty]

There aren't any.
You still can live together even after you're married.

[scooping]

Please ask my ex-wife.

[lozzer50]

married for 24 years then divorced. living with new partner 12 years don't want to get married things ok as it is

[ummmm]

I suppose it's attitude. Some people put a lot of emphasis on that piece of paper.

[Prudie]

One's a lot easier to walk away from than the other. Whether that's an advantage or not depends on your viewpoint.

[redman41]

Marriage is the process of finding out what kind of man your wife would have preferred.... :-)

[gingejbee]

Neither one is "better". It depends on YOU and the other person...it's your opinion that matters...not ours.

[nohorn]

As a side note, a topic I have been interested in, there is a book available, thru semiotext (e) by Bruce Benderson that should prove interesting.....I haven't read it yet but its summary is enticing...." Against Marriage".

[nohorn]

Also, I remember one piece of advice, never choose anyone who you could not live in a foxhole for a week with. (Given by a former military person).

[dunnitall]

Only advantage I see is that if planning children, then in wedlock they are not classed as b'stards. I think of the children, parents not married, but then I am rather old fashioned in that respect.

[hc4361]

I don't look on illegitimate children as bastards. Those days are long gone.

[dunnitall]

But hc that is what they are until it's officially changed.

[ummmm]

You still think illegitimate kids are viewed as bastards?

I thought that view had changed a long time ago. I am so happy my grandparents moved with the times.

[hc4361]

Things have changed already - illegitimate children can be baptised and get married in The Church of England.
Even Pope Francis supports the baptism of illegitimate children in the Roman Catholic Church.
Since the Family Law Reform Act 1969 illegitimate children inherit from their father's estate even when there is no will.

[ummmm]

I don't know about CoE but my daughter was baptised RC in Ireland without a blink of an eye (a few probably gossiped over a cup of tea after while us sinners went to the pub)

[hc4361]

Ummm, Pope Francis has the right attitude. Better for a child to be born and welcomed in to the Church than be aborted.
Some Catholic priests won't baptise those children but that is not the official stance

[hc4361]

To get back to the original question - I love being married and wouldn't have it any other way. We've been married for a long time but went through a very bad patch about 20 years ago. I doubt we'd have stuck it out if we hadn't been married but I'm so glad we did.
We didn't have a big fancy wedding, neither of us wanted that but it's a very special day to us.

[ummmm]

That's nice, hc, really nice to feel like that.

[ethandron]

Neither of us would bother getting married if we had met in this day and age, I really can't see why we would. It was expected all those years ago, didn't consider that we wouldnt. I suppose it does make things legal/easier if you're going to have children, puts it on an official footing.

[woofgang]

by me marriage is the committment. You stand up in front of the people who love you and promise to stay together. Its not easy, it is special.