Update to "without anybody stating the obvious"....

[Smowball]

Well I did indeed confront him last night with the statement - he looked so stunned that he didnt even think to ask why it was open. composed himself very quickly then said it was towards his daughters future, then when i said why he has never once put money away weekly in the last 8 years, then chooses the exact month we got into dire financial worries he just wouldnt answer. Just kept repeating he could do what he likes for his daughter with his money. But you know that certain people do a specific thing when they are lying, like not looking you in the eye, or a nervous cough etc, well he has a specific thing that he does and he was difinitely lying. Havent a clue where to go from here now : (

[ummmm]

Where did I say that Sqad?

Yesterday it appeared that you presumed because Smowball called her hubby her OH that they were unmarried.

[mumsie_wumsie]

Sorry, latest replies were there while I was still tapping away. Does sound to me as though there is possibly another woman in this ,and time to decide if you can live under these circumstances. I personally think that a liar is one of the lowest!

[Sqad]

ummmm....my reply was to mumsie.

[Smowball]

I do know he has had business problems and im just wondering if he is in financial trouble and is hiding money that he will owe somebody. Im just sooo confused.

[cassa333]

Some omnths ago he decided to seperate his pay from your joint accounts and he has said that you should split up..

Take the hint!

He has been planning his escape for at least a couple of months so decide if you want to ask him for time to patch things up or start going your seperate ways.

[ummmm]

Huh? Why does there have to be another woman.

What else has he done, besides staying out one night, to make you think he might have another woman?

To me, it sounds like he wants to give money to HIS daughter and not do the same for YOUR son. The only way he could get away with it is to open a separate bank account....because he knows it's wrong.

[ummmm]

Bloody hell....why are people so negative?

[Sqad]

Of to my Club now, will review this thread with interest on my return.

ummmm...there doesn't HAVE to be another woman...............just the law of averages.

[EvianBaby]

So he has his own account that he transfers money from into your joint account. You don't know how much goes into his own account so if he was up to something dodgy, why would he need to transfer money into his daughters account (thus involving her)? He could just draw the money straight from his own account without you knowing.

[ummmm]

Sqad - if you say so.

[ummmm]

Exactly Evian...

[rowanwitch]

my gut feeling it is a woman either expecting or just recently had his child...
Sounds like you could do a whole lot better than this deceitful, manipulative man

I don't think you will ever hear the full story and even if you did you might not believe him even then... no way to spend your life

[cassa333]

Negative because even if he only wanted to give money to his daughter and not her son then he is doing it underhandedly and a big TRUST issue comes into play.

I don't beleive it is anything to do with money for his daughter.

[Smowball]

Now im REALLY depressed.

[micmak]

Reading this thread and the last one, something is not quite right about it.

[ummmm]

Rowan....what? Whatever gave you that impression?

Talk about kicking someone when they are down...!!!

Like Evian said...why put money into the daughters account?

[ummmm]

Smowball - don't listen to them. You know your husband...if he had another woman I'm sure you would have spotted some change in behaviour.