Really want a baby

[angel21]

had abortion at 18 (as ex wasn't supportive - one I am seeing again now - due to trouble with his ex and their little girl) and ever since then been broody.

Girl at work is pregnant, all her friends are pregnant, her sister is pregnant, my friend is pregnant, everywhere I go its pregnant people and babies and baby talk, the apprentice tomorrow is to do with babies.

Spending time at work with this girl and spending time with ex and his 7yr old on sunday is not helping.

Perhaps its time to pack job in and move in with mum 50 miles away - that will solve ex and girl at work problem but not broodiness problem.

[lankeela]

Not really the best person to ask, but for what its worth I would have though getting into a long term happy relationship should come long before even considering whether a baby is what you both want and then planning it.

[4getmenot]

Ilm sure if its same person she did have counselling

[angel21]

Yes karmgirl.

I have had counselling.

Leaving work now.
Speak tomorrow.

Sorry for moaning.

Have a good afternoon xxx

[redcrx]

if youre not the same poster from before then i shall give the advice again, you need counselling to get over the abortion that you had. Guilt can destroy a person, as you are probably discovering.

Nothing can change what decision you made 2 years ago, the decision you made was correct at the time, you cannot go back.

move on, forgive yourself, and be nice to yourself.

oh and get rid of the ex

[Eve.]

It sounds like you are desperately unhappy in general but are focussing, obsessing even, on one particular thing which you think will make you happy but life doesn't work like that hon. I'm not saying having a baby isn't a wonderful thing but it's not the key to solving your unhappiness.

It seems like you are unable to deal with things in yourself that you are projecting it on everyone one and everything around you, however irrational.

No one little thing will make you happy and keep you happy, you need to start looking at the bigger picture and stop pushing the blame for your unhappiness on everything around you and look inside.

It might not be pleasant but until you do you will find it very hard to move on and find the happiness you seem so desperate for.

If you take away the blame from everyone else, your first instinct is to blame yourself. Horrible though that might be, it is the start for being able to examine that and rationalise it.

It happened, it was a mistake, you're not the first and you won't be the last, it was horrible but you made the right decision for you for a reason so reconcile it with yourself and move on. Get rid of the blame and move on to making the most of that freedom you gave yourself by what happened.