Advice please...... :-)

[jammiedodger]

Hello all, I need advice to kind of get one over on someone with words.... im not too good with arguements etc and what to say!

Story is....... about this time last year I was single and fed up so decided to get in touch with my ex, not knowing he had a new gf. I kind of over reacted as he didnt wanna know and kept emailing him and dumped the stuff he had bought me outside his house. His gf got involved and started texting me etc.

I have a new boyfirend and haven't contacted him since then until a few weeks ago where I sent him a msg on a website saying 'hi how r u?' and then again after I saw him driving, none of which he replied to.

Thing is his gf has started sending me msgs like 'leave us alone' etc and 'stop pestering us' also ont he website. Personally, 2 msgs to me doesnt constitute pestering, just asking how someone is, no innuendos, no nothing!

I dont care about my ex anymore but get annoyed when his gf thinks she can send me these msgs. I am happy with my new bloke, very happy infact, but stuff like this just gets me all wound up!

I want to show her I dont care about them so does anyone have any ideas on what I cud write or how to handle the situation???

P.S. Please dont just tell me to leave it and not reply to the msgs, I want to annoy her, the vile B****!!!

[annie0000]

Send a message back saying that you have been diagnosed with a STD and you have a moral requirement to let your bf know - however, if they are not interested then fine. That is why you were asking how he was.

[jammiedodger]

I like ur style! x

[arlibop]

You say when you originally got in touch 'he didn't want to know' so why did you send him another txt msg? Perhaps he and his gf don't want a repeat of the previous time, they are not to know that you are happy with a new man. If you do want to send a msg what about telling them you are in a new relationship and happy and just wanted to say hello.

[laurence2]

Why the revenge thing?

Are you sure your not over your ex?

You want to annoy her, the vile B****

She seems to have something you want back!!

[bednobs]

flipping hell, you sound like a right nutter. No wonder h is suspicious of this new contact if you turned all bunny boiler last time I know yoyu specifically asked not for this advice but really, stop contacting him before he contactss the police!

[warpig3]

Am I missing something here, is there more to this story? Why are you calling his g/f a vile b****? What has happened previously?

[bednobs]

how is she vile by asking you to stop contact anyway? Or a bitch?

[jammiedodger]

nothing has happened previously apart from her sending me rude n abusive text messages! Is it a crime to just want to know how someone is??

[warpig3]

I assume she sent these text message because you kept emailing him and dumping stuff on his doorstep, if so what did you expect her to do, and now that you have contacted him twice it is only natural that they may believe the same scenario might arise.

[arlibop]

Because you were single and fed up you contacted him and despite finding out he had a girlfriend you then pester him with emails and dumped stuff outside his house! God, no wonder they are wary. And if you don't care why bother!

[Doc Spock]

Is this the plot line from the film " Play misty for me". Spooky.

[laurence2]

Fatal attraction anybody?

[chazza]

I think you should just leave it, you are both in happy relationships and you don't really have a reason to stay in touch.

i dont mean to be rude but you have continued to email, text and go to this guy's house when he doesn't want to know.

I would just let it go, he could start to see you as a stalker if you ignore the requests to leave them alone

[Octavius]

Let us know the gfs email address so we can advise her to avoid the scary mary bunny boiling actions you have been inflicting upon these poor souls trying to get on with their lives.

An STD is not a laughing matter and I would consider this highly inappropriate and rather destructive to an otherwise content relationshp. Not the aactions of an adult (assuming you are) at all. Grow up and leave them alone.

[laurence2]

just don't contact them/him again.

You've got your life to lead now with a new bf, and he has his with a new gf.

You've said hello/how are you, and he's decided not to reply, maybe thats his way of saying no contact is the best way of dealing with it, his gf probably feels uncomfortable with the situation hence her reaction.


Let it go

[Craig007]

Get over it and move on, your ex has, why can't you?

[teag1rl]

really. who is the vile one here? Not being nasty but just leave it alone. I'm not surprised at the reaction you have got from people on here. However you try to explain yourslef you're still sounding like a nutter.

[Doc Spock]

Is your present boyfriend aware of your attempts to contact ex. How does he regard this situation.
I would be rather upset if it was me.

[Rubyrose]

While I don't see what you would gain from this I know I'd be the same... I'd totally want to message her with something! Paul and Annie gave good answers.

When she sent you the text, did you reply?

I'd have sent back something like "While two tests doesn't constitute as pestering I can see that you'd consider me a threat. Have no fear.. I don't want him so you can sleep easy. But incase you get bored I can send you a list of my future cast offs"

or "Who is this? I take it you are the cheap looking sl*t I saw him with today at the park"