Advice please...... :-)

[jammiedodger]

Hello all, I need advice to kind of get one over on someone with words.... im not too good with arguements etc and what to say!

Story is....... about this time last year I was single and fed up so decided to get in touch with my ex, not knowing he had a new gf. I kind of over reacted as he didnt wanna know and kept emailing him and dumped the stuff he had bought me outside his house. His gf got involved and started texting me etc.

I have a new boyfirend and haven't contacted him since then until a few weeks ago where I sent him a msg on a website saying 'hi how r u?' and then again after I saw him driving, none of which he replied to.

Thing is his gf has started sending me msgs like 'leave us alone' etc and 'stop pestering us' also ont he website. Personally, 2 msgs to me doesnt constitute pestering, just asking how someone is, no innuendos, no nothing!

I dont care about my ex anymore but get annoyed when his gf thinks she can send me these msgs. I am happy with my new bloke, very happy infact, but stuff like this just gets me all wound up!

I want to show her I dont care about them so does anyone have any ideas on what I cud write or how to handle the situation???

P.S. Please dont just tell me to leave it and not reply to the msgs, I want to annoy her, the vile B****!!!

[Rubyrose]

Texts* (not tests)

[jammiedodger]

this all happened before we got together, the only thing that has happened is me asking how my ex was, surely thats ok!

[warpig3]

jammiedodger, just leave it, get on with your life and be happy.

[Rubyrose]

God people on this site are judgemental!

Oh of course... I forgot... everyone on this site is so god damn perfect that they can lay down the laws and walk around with their heads held high and corks up their bums! God....... such a judgemental lot... so much for sticking together! Can't wait till some of you need help!

Jammie - I know where you are coming from. I am the same with my ex's girlfriend. I am happy for them and they are having a baby and if I see her in town we stop and have a little chat... He won't speak to me and has told his mates he doesn't want to make things difficult for me!!! We have been broken up a year and a half and I am well over it.. anyway... but if she sent me a message speaking on his behalf like this I would want to b!tch slap her.... or someting equally rewarding.. simply because he was mine first and who is she to start sending me things like this! She hasn't... but I know where you are coming from. It's not about wanting him back.... it's about being made out to be the baddie when you know your own intentions were genuine!

[Champagne]

Take the hint and leave the poor guy alone will you? He clearly doesn't want to be mates with you so move on!

I'm with Octavius on this one. You are reacting to a situation that you (and you only) have created. Why not go one step further than the boiling of a beloved pet, and threaten the death of a family member, eh?

Crikey.

[jammiedodger]

Thanks Rubyrose, for a minute there I was wondering if I was the only one who had ever wanted revenge on someone!
yeh exactly, just wait til the others want a bit of advice!

[Doc Spock]

Don't think we have the full story here.
"kept e-mailing him"?

[jammiedodger]

yeh Doc Spock, he was emailing me at first behind his gf's back saying things he shouldnt have, but then he stopped, so i was emailing asking why he wudnt talk to me anymore

[warpig3]

Ok, how about this, your new b/fs ex girlfriend contacted him and he said he is not interested as he is with you. She continues to contact him and dumps all the stuff he bought her on his doorstep. How would you react, what would you do?

[Doc Spock]

I don't think it appropraite for this site to be used to solicit advice on seeking revenge on another person. Certainly not in relationship situations.

[jammiedodger]

well its up to individuals whether they reply or not Dr Spock

[Rubyrose]

To be honest Jammie they don't give good advice these days! They are all up on their high horses looking down at us mere mortals! I really must have missed the day the horses were handed out on AB..... What the hell happened to everyone lately? This site used to be so nice and we all used to be able to rally together and have a laugh and stick up for eachother!

If someone had posted a Q like yours about 2yrs ago, we'd have all rallied round, called the girl a cow, made fun of her and told you not to worry about it and then you would have felt a million times better and probably never have wanted to send anything anyway.... All you needed was some moral support and a nice way of someone telling you not to bother.... That's what my friends would have done. Told me to leave the cow be! But nooooo.... lately on here everyone is a Judge!

Jeeez.... I'm having fun playing down here in the gutter anyway! ;o)

[tiny e.a]

But sending messages like the ones rubyrose suggest will only result in them laughing together about what a stupid, crazy little b!tch you are. You may think the texts sound big and clever but they don't, they sound like some little girl trying to make an impression on two people who really couldn't give a sh!t about you. Nothing will anger her, it will just give her something to show your ex what a freak you are.

[jammiedodger]

I'll come join u Ruby......

Yeh a nice bit of advice, gently telling me to leave her be would have been fine, coupled with a few jokes about her!

but no, everyone feels the need to call me a bunny boiler and make me feel like a worthless person.

thanks everyone!

[jammiedodger]

Tiny e.a. how dare u judge me n call me a stupid little b!tch!

How rude!

Ur telling me ur absolutley perfect and have never done anything wrong?

[Doc Spock]

you said it rubes.
btw how can you vehemently support sometimes cause when you don't know full story.
Smacks of a kangeroo court. I suspect your support is because you, as you say, would behave in a similar fashion.

[unruliejulie]

is that what advice is about then ruby, just agreeing and calling this girl a cow cause jammiedodger has a problem with her ? Can' t see the point of that to be honest. and in the long run, all that will do is fire her up even more. That won't help anyone.

The one thing i still love about ab is hearing ALL the differing opinions on a situation. Just agreeing for the hell of it is useless.

Your opinion is yours and others have theirs. Neither is right or wrong but purely that, an opinion.

[Doc Spock]

So Ruby, you would call a complete stranger a cow and make fun of her. And you call us judgemental!!!!!